Should I meet him?

Why is he not travelling to meet you in your community?

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Separately, a 2 hour trip does not mean staying for the weekend. People commute that distance every day.

because he didnt want to

So wait til he wants to.

Invite him for an afternoon visit in your town on a weekend. If he says no, suggest he let you know when he's interested. Then drop the discussion of getting together.

In the meantime, what are you doing locally to meet people and make friends? all eggs in one basket tends to be a problematic approach.

4 things: 1. Don't go. 2. Don't go! 3. Don't go!! 4. DON'T GO!!!!

tbh its hard to make friends locally because everyone knows eachother, and im very shy so it makes it more difficult to start talking to people.

I date online and I have met several very nice people including someone I ended up dating for a year. I don't agree with Contrex.

In my opinion (and I am writing as a man), the first date with someone you haven't met in real life should be:

1) Safe. You should meet in a public place. This doesn't mean you need to be scared. But, this is someone you haven't met. You should be smart. Of course, once you are in the public place you should relax and enjoy yourself. But being alone with a stranger I met online would make me nervous. Restaurants are good. A public park is good (with people around). Some activity is good. His house, or a secluded cabin in the woods... not so good.

2) Of a limited time. There is nothing worse that spending 5 hours with someone when you realize after 30 minutes that you don't enjoy being with them. Make sure you have no obligation to stay with him more than 1 or 2 hours at most. This is a little difficult because you live apart. Generally when I go out with someone I meet online I plan for drinks... that is the agreement. Usually I allow myself optional time (i.e. I don't plan anything after the date) just in case things go really well.

But I never want my date or myself to feel obligated to stay if they are bored or uncomfortable.

In your situation, I would choose a place in the middle. Maybe dinner (just because you want to make the drive worth it) but with the understanding that dinner is the only obligation.

3) Make sure you have fun. Realize that most online meetings don't turn into to anything. Once in a while something works. You should enjoy your time either way.

Are there any meet-up groups in your town/city?

Do you work? go to school?

Not that i know of, and i go to school but i dont know anybody. Yes i have tried talking to people in my class but they had their friends and weren't interested in a new one

You might look up meet up groups in your vicinity. They are based on interests, so there are often several possible groups you might enjoy meeting. A friend goes walking with one group, and I think to see performances with another group.

Others here know more about them than I do, but all I've known to try it, like their experience with these groups. People don't know each other at first, so everyone is in the same boat.

Here's a link to the main site: https://www.meetup.com/

Even if they are not in your town, they may be a lot less than two hours away, one way.