@Krumple,
You're right. you're so right.
I'm quitting the team. and I won't forgive my boyfriend for a second time. As for my friend, I can forgive her, but I know now where the level of our friendship is ( which is zero) .
***light bulb moment***
All this time I"m trying to be nice and not cause friction. OMG I'm not the one that caused the friction, they did. This is my fault and I'm beating myself up to be nice and do the right thing. they didn't. Thank you krumple.