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Mon 3 Oct, 2016 12:55 pm
Hi. I'm 35, he's 27. We have been together for 10 months. We both love each other; but he's very controlling and I have reached the point where I can't live my life this way and we have both decided to break up. Sex is really awesome and He has suggested we still remain together without the controlling stuff (just a fake relationship). Is it wise for me to do this or should i call it quits?
@nelsa2k,
So you'd be **** buddies?
Eh, whatever floats your boat.
I'd say watch out, given he's apparently a natural controller.
Only you can decide this, but given the fact that he has made these rules with you about your relationship/the future suggests that he is still trying to control you.
Too many unanswered questions: will this be exclusive? how will you ever meet a nice guy when this guy takes up your time? why don't you think you can have amazing sex with anyone else. (believe me, you will!)
Love is a short word with differing meanings. Love is not the same as thrilling infatuation, that is called "in love", but can grow to be more complex. Controllers aren't loving, more like owners, or renters, or, at the least, folks looking for daybeds.
@nelsa2k,
Quote:He has suggested we still remain together without the controlling stuff (just a fake relationship)
So a relationship without the controlling stuff is fake?
I assume this was just a poor choice of words..
@nelsa2k,
If you're both ok with the other one dating, there's nothing wrong with it.
It will be a non-exclusive sexual relationship.
As long as neither of you goes into the new FWB set-up expecting to develop a better relationship with the other, you're good to go.
(not saying the relationship can't change/improve - just saying don't expect it to)
@nelsa2k,
I guess you are the only person that can decide whether or not you are after a long term relationship with "someone", marry, have children, or just have good sex and feel that you can't move on, because emotions will come into play and you'll feel guilty.
I don't think you are being honest
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