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I need some tips on what to say to a girl...

 
 
Peplou
 
Reply Sat 24 Sep, 2016 05:12 pm


I'm a 16 year old boy,I'm very shy and I have never been out with a girl before.
Recently since moving up a year at school i have become attracted towards a girl in my computing class. She will quite often be looking at me when I look up in class so I don't know if she likes Me or not but she's always very quiet and may also be shy.
I would love to make friends with her but I am incredibly shy towards girls and often feel intimidated by those who I find attractive.
I always fear the Awkwardness of talking to her, and start making excuses to my self.
So could someone give me some tips on what I should do in this situation.
 
ossobucotemp
 
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Reply Sat 24 Sep, 2016 06:07 pm
@Peplou,
Girls are people too. Just talk to her.
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XxSiCxX
 
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Reply Sat 24 Sep, 2016 06:07 pm
@Peplou,
It's better to try and fail than to not try at all. Beyond that it's through doing this that attempts after it become easier. Is it hard to put yourself out there? Sure. Do you run the risk of being turned down? Yep. But in doing we become stronger and more experienced.

This world is full of people. Take a risk, you don't know her so do the simple and awkward thing. Introduce yourself, "Hi, I'm so and so. I have noticed you looking my way more than once would you care to talk?"

You already have the que of her meeting your eyes or looking at you more than once. So either you are visually appealing to her or you are a oddity to her. Either way put your best foot forward and make the attempt. The out come may just surprise you.
jespah
 
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Reply Sat 24 Sep, 2016 06:39 pm
@XxSiCxX,
Actually, I'd be a little less direct than this (I think a lot of people don't want to be called out on staring, and this could put her on the defensive).

"Hi, I'm __. How are you finding the class? I think it's great/good/okay/hard (whatever, adjust accordingly)."

The class is your logical 'thing in common' and is therefore your ice breaker.
XxSiCxX
 
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Reply Sat 24 Sep, 2016 07:04 pm
@jespah,
That is very true. Everyone reacts differently and approaches things in a manner that works for them. The point remains the same. Act or you will never know what the out come might be.
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ossobucotemp
 
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Reply Sat 24 Sep, 2016 07:12 pm
@jespah,
Cultures vary about staring. A lot of posters here, apparently from India, have talked about it over the years. In the US, far as I know, and I don't know everything, take it as weird, some kind of creepy come on.
Not creepy in some circumstances.
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Miller
 
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Reply Sun 25 Sep, 2016 09:29 am
@Peplou,
If you're both in the same computing class , why not ask her a question about a step in the computer homework or classwork. Be nice, not aggressive, not too shy, but get her to help you with your computer work.

Then ask her to have lunch with you at the school and then buy her a little piece of cake or a donut. You might find that she likes you and that you like her.

Who knows??
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