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johnnywonnie
 
Reply Tue 20 Sep, 2016 11:24 pm
After my wife passed away I made a contact to my first love who I dated 40 years ago. I was surprised she responded the next day. I knew where she has lived and been a single. But I never made a contact and she had no idea where I was. And I screwed up big time and had been out of my mind for a while. I guess the loss of my beloved wife caused my temporary mental retardation.

After she initially responded I bombarded love letter for two weeks every day and it might scared her. She never send me a mail and hung up the phone when I called her. But I'm dying for her love and I don't want anyone but her.

When I tried to get some advice from a woman's point of view from my wife's friend and my deceased friend's wife, one just walked out and another was very nasty. Gee, I don't get this woman psychology.

So I'm asking genuine friendly advice from this open forum. Should I forget her which will really hurt my heart or any proper way to approach and win her heart? She has never married and 62 now. She has PhD. in something.
I'm financially OK. It's been 3 months since I stopped writing her.

Ladies, please give me some words.

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roger
 
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Reply Tue 20 Sep, 2016 11:33 pm
@johnnywonnie,
johnnywonnie wrote:

. Gee, I don't get this woman psychology.


From your title, I would never have guessed.
chai2
 
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Reply Tue 20 Sep, 2016 11:34 pm
Leave the woman alone. She hung up on you.

If you keep pursuing her, you're being a stalker.
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chai2
 
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Reply Tue 20 Sep, 2016 11:36 pm
@roger,
roger wrote:

johnnywonnie wrote:

. Gee, I don't get this woman psychology.


From your title, I would never have guessed.


Oh yeah, that was a good one.
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jespah
 
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Reply Wed 21 Sep, 2016 08:05 am
If someone is 62 and never married, here are a few possible reasons:
  1. She's gay, either openly or closeted.
  2. She's bi.
  3. She's asexual.
  4. She had a lost love and doesn't want anyone else, even though that person is gone.
  5. She likes being on her own and doesn't want to share her house, her credit rating, her health issues, etc. with another person of any gender.


Only #4 is remotely close to her being interested in someone like you. You overdid it, and you blew it. Frankly, I would hang up on you, too. You sound clingy, needy, and insensitive to other people's feelings or interests.

Let.It.Go.
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Wed 21 Sep, 2016 08:07 am
You need to go to grief counseling ASAP.

Very often, grief comes out sideways. In your case, your loss and emotions got transferred upon an old friend. (You might have even been writing those letters to your dead wife)

Anyway - you scared this woman. You must leave her alone after you explain that your grieving caused you to act insensitive to her. If she wants to call you after that, then she can.
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