Men. Please answer this question.

Why do you not want to hear what grown women say? You are very insistent on that.

Not really. The question was directed to men for a reason.

I am a man and have been on lots of dates when I was single. These situations are a mystery to me. If I had gone on a date that went that well I definitely would call the woman within a couple of days. If this had only happened with one man I would say that he was either stupid or that he was involved in a fatal accident right after your date. But it happened twice with two different men, so I'm mystified.

They were just being polite, or were thinking it was an easy way out. Had nothing to do with the fact you reached out first. It's not 1954.

I agree. But if he was simply being polite for an easy way out, then why hold my hand, or make an attempt to kiss me goodnight? Someone trying to be polite or had no intent to go on a second date, you would think they wouldn't make those moves.

Ooh, ooh, Chai is a grown woman.

Whom I agree with in this case.

I don't really care.

I am a single man. I can answer this.

First, There is nothing wrong with reaching out to a guy you are interested in a few days after a date. In fact, you should do this. If a woman texts me or calls me a few days after a date, it would make me more interested in her rather than less.

Second, These guys weren't really interested in you. If they were, they would have responded (or probably had initiated themselves). You shouldn't be hurt by that, it is life and it happens to all of us. This doesn't mean you did anything wrong, or that they were unhappy with the date. It means that after they had time to think about it they didn't think that the relationship was likely to be something they wanted.

Third, I think these guys are being a little rude with the silent treatment. I will always respond to someone who I had a date with even if just to tell them I had a fun time with them.

Fourth, dating is emotional for men (as I suspect it is for women). It is common for me that I have a great time with a woman on the date, but then the next day I don't think that pursuing a relationship is a good idea. Generally if I tell a woman that I would like to see them again while I am on a date, I am really sure that I would like to see them again (and I will ask them out again). But emotions are a funny thing and sometimes emotions on a date don't turn into anything.

I hope this is a little helpful. Dating is complicated.

I agree with max that not responding is not called for.

I agree with Max too, but it doesn't count.

"They were just being polite, or were thinking it was an easy way out."

There's really nothing more to say.

Try? They made an attempt to kiss you good night? Sounds like they tried and failed. What was the question, again?

Max,

Thank you for your insight. That's all I wanted. Not the unnecessary sarcasm from others in this string.

Bing! Bing! Bing!

I think it was mutual nerves. It wasn't that he tried and failed. We were both nervous, that's all.

That's great!

Where is Slappy Doo Hoo when you need him?

All of the above, this is one sharp crowd! :-)