I'll add that before the beeswax re my aunt, I had to sell my mother's house to pay for her Alzheimers care, which developed over eight years or ten or more years, locked ward as she was a wanderer. Talk about sorrow - not so much re the difficulties, as what happened to my mother.
I learned later that I could have lived there as I was included as joint tenant, but I didn't understand that from the atty. Don't get me started. I probably didn't want to anyway, that was when I and friend had an art gallery/loft space in Venice, where I met my husband, but I wish I'd caught on to that. Still, I would have likely had to sell to pay for her care all those years, scalding bills.
Again, I'm talking about me, but there's a pattern in some of my stuff, that could form a lesson of some sort..
@Crazielady420,
I say tell your grandfather what the aunt said as well. He is clear on his wishes and she is planning on completely disrespecting that. He should know.
I meant to write an update sooner.
I told him shortly after I posted this. He was very grateful that I told him and everything that came out of it was positive.
It also felt good to get it off my chest.
@Crazielady420,
Good decision crazie.
Keeping secrets is like a prison.
In this case it felt like the aunt was the jailor.
@chai2,
Agree with Chai - that took me a while re family stuff, but yeah.
