Found a condom hiding on the cupboard. Is he cheating? HELP I don't know what to do.

His cousin left a box of johnnies in his car and he took them out of the car and put them in the cupboard? Why? To use with you?

Whatever, the real issue is whether you trust him or not. if you don't (you called the manufacturer?), then leave.

If you don't trust him, leave. It will be better for both of you.

It's really that simple.

No need to ask other people about it.

We never use a condom. It's the first time it happened and never in my gut instinct that he will cheat. You're absolutely right. It's the trust that matter. Thank you for the reply.

Thank you ehBeth. It's the first time that happened and I really appreciate all who can help.. but you're right. Just trust him or leave.

Can you do math?

The condoms were produced 4 or 5 years ago.

You've been together with him for 2.

I don't know or care if he's been cheating or not, but how can you not see those condoms could have been sitting up there years beofe you met him? He could have used the half a box long before you knew him.

Could very well have been put up there and forgotten.

I went through menopause 10 years ago, and just the other day found an opened old box of tampons in a drawer. It was next to some mascara that hadn't been opened, and I haven't put makeup on in 5 years. I'd hate for my husband to find that and ask me why I had it. How the hell do I know, it's just there.

Ah! Just thought of something funny.

My husband had a vasectomy Long before we met, so never a need for other birth control.

One days I'm sure more than 10 or 12 years ago, he came up to me and said "What's this?" holding something out to me.

I looked and said "Condoms. Why do you have them?"

He said he found them in a drawer under the coffee table. I told him I frankly had no idea. He looked at me oddly for a few moments. I asked him when did I ever have time to have sex with someone else when I was either at work or at home, or somewhere with him. He agreed.

Absolutley no idea. One of those great mysteries of life. Haven't thought about that for years.

Thanks for the memories.

the condoms were produced 4 or 5 years before 2019

EhBeth is right, however I think it doesn't matter if the condoms were made in the time of President Coolidge, or last week. What matters is that the lady clearly does not trust her byfriend.

He changed his story because he is lying.

Just think about how bad you would feel if you hadn't found a condom in the cupboard.

ok sorry, I didn't do the math.

Still, that would be around the time they met. Who was he shagging then?

Or because she kept grilling him since she didn't like his first story.

It seems he would hide them better or buy single condoms for cheating. Something he could purchase and leave behind wherever like travel size items.

The fact that he is using condoms shows a bit of caution.

Give him another chance and watch him like a hawk. It is not fair to punish someone for telling the truth. Or at least half-truth, maybe they were his and he fibbed about them so as not to appear like a slut or maybe he and his cousin were getting it on.

I think you need more to go on so if you like being with him until there is something more conclusive maybe let him off the hook but keep an eye on him.

His actions will let you know if he is diddling on the side and watch out for that cousin of his either way he is probably a bad influence.

Ask him to get tested "together" for STDs, all the major ones and vaccines too. See what he thinks of that idea. This is often a good way to seal in a relationship, though not foolproof. The thought of repeating the process for an affair seems less of a possibility.

Makes it sound like a vacuum packed piece of fish.

If that is the way you view love as amphibians that is your prerogative.

Chlamydia, herpes, AIDS virus... STDs are quite serious and not at all a contentious joke.

"Sealing in" sounds like condom use to me, I think the description is aptly used..

I thought you meant asking someone to have an STD test would be a way of testing their committment and kind of putting a sealed wrapper around the relationship, metaphorically speaking.