you can deny God's Omnipotence and wallow in pity, because the world has very sad things in it (we lost a longtime pet this morning) or you can believe that every tear can and will be wiped away.
I am a convert, now a Catholic, and I know that the emotional side of the temporary relief of 'there is no God' is very dark ultimately.
Sorry to hear about your loss, C.
Is a problem irrelevant if it is to be fixed? or is one entitled to ask why the problem arose in the first place? The question of "how a loving God allows suffering" or "how could a loving God do x" causes a large percentage of people to question their own or others faith, so is an answer not pertinent?
That is why Edgar had a very relevant input.