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Sara99
 
Reply Sat 13 Aug, 2016 11:25 am
Hi guys,

I am going to share with you my actual situation with you cause I really don't know what to do, and your advice will be really helpful for me.

I am a student and I had some lectures with another class program for one semester. There was a very handsome guy, I liked him since the moment I saw for the first time, but sure I didn't let him know that. After sometime he sent a friend request on facebook and we talked for about 2 weeks or so. But actually were just general conversation but sometimes it seems like he was hitting on me. Sure I was happy but nothing was concrete yet. One day he disappered, he never wrote me again and on the classroom he stayed only with his friends. I was surprised why this reaction from nothing, but anyway I didn't write him.

After around 2 months without hearing from each other we met at a party. There he tried to talk to me and to dance close to me.I have to emphasize that he was drunk. At a moment he invited me to go outside and he told me that he liked me but he could't do anything cause he was already in a relationship. Then he told me about the problems he had with his girl cause she was living far away and he was quite fed up with this.

Again after the party, not writing anything for over 2 months. Then, one day from nothing he sent me a message if I would like to go with him and his friends on the beach.

I was busy and I couldn't. After some days we talked a little and again he disappeared for 3 weeks, then again he wrote if i want to go for a barbecue. What really surprised me was that he was going with his best friends, who I didnt know, and he invited me.

I have to say that I really like him, but I am afraid maybe he wants just to use me and that's all/

Please give me your advice, I am grateful if you would suggest me what to do
 
jespah
 
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Reply Sat 13 Aug, 2016 12:00 pm
@Sara99,
Maybe he's still in a relationship. Or maybe he wants you to meet his friends.

If you go, have your own transportation. Don't be under an obligation to anyone. Give it an hour. Having a good time? Stay longer. Not? Then don't. And if it's uncomfortable before the hour is up, then don't stand on ceremony and just go.
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Sat 13 Aug, 2016 01:56 pm
You are a rebound girl. He doesn't communicate with you for long times, then pays attention to you. Very odd.

Ask him what's up. He owes you an explanation why he is push/pull with you.
ehBeth
 
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Reply Sat 13 Aug, 2016 01:59 pm
@Sara99,
Maybe he wants to be friends.

He is in a relationship. That doesn't mean he can't have male and female friends.

If you think you can be friends, go hang out with his group as Jespah suggested.

If you're only interested in him in a romantic way, have no interest in him as a friend, forget about it.
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ehBeth
 
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Reply Sat 13 Aug, 2016 02:01 pm
@Sara99,
Sara99 wrote:
I am afraid maybe he wants just to use me and that's all


maybe he doesn't have a sexual interest in you at all

maybe he thinks you might be a nice friend to have

you're both in school - you will have more friends than romantic partners

if you can't do friendship - skip this entirely
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Sara99
 
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Reply Sun 14 Aug, 2016 06:35 am
@PUNKEY,
Thank you for your comment!
Do you think us better to text him and ask directly about his dissappear?
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