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Sun 17 Jul, 2016 09:05 pm
hey guys. Really need some help here. Its hell in my head. Met my ex gf in college, we fell in love and had a great relationship. were together for over 2 years but things got really difficult after school, we couldnt see each other much and it was just hard for us and she broke up with me 8 months after school ended.
When we were together things were great, we got along really well, talked all the time and became so close we were best friends and loved each other alot. Those two years we were together were the best years of our lives and it just sucked that it had to end.
After we broke up we never really talked much. we broke up last year around this time. And she messaged me last month and we have been talking on and off ever since.
she talks hot and cold sometimes, and we talked over the phone a few times but not in a few days.
Honestly speaking i still have feelings for her, she meant alot to me and i loved her alot, we were extremely close and it was hard when things ended.
when we talk we reminisce alot, says she misses how things use to be, how she wish she could go back to those times we had and stuff and told a friend of mine she missed me also. We've been talking for about a month now. Never talked about reconciliation.
we never really went out when we were together because we never really could of because of her parents and stuff, so we spend every day together in school. we enjoyed spending time together and talking and i do miss her. we had a really strong bond and were always there for each other, that made us more close.
i asked her out but she says when shes ready, i wasnt really dissapointed because like i said we never really went out. she says she'll come by sometime because she also has some things to drop for me.
I want to tell her how i feel. id like to tell her i still think about her everyday, and the time i had with her were the best and happiest times of my life, i never felt that way before in my life i only felt that way when i was with her. and now that some times gone by i knew what we had and it was the best thing i ever had and if we could do it again, i would like to.
Is easier now because we are talking again and im just not sure when to tell her.
do i tell her soon or after she visits me, im not too sure when she'll come by. My heads going crazy with thoughts. If i could try again with her id love that because the times we had were the best and happiest times of my life.
So what do i say guys?
and when do i say it?
@username101,
username101 wrote:we never really went out when we were together because we never really could of because of her parents and stuff
has the situation with her parents and stuff changed?
is she in a position to be able to date?
having a school - time only relationship really isn't the same as dating
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it's certainly fair to let her know that you enjoyed your time with her and to let her know you'd like to date her now - but be careful about what you say about what you hope the future holds. at this stage, you'don't know what you'd be like together in a real adult dating relationship.
@ehBeth,
yes it has, her mom new about me and she we were together. we just could not come out yet because her father was different, But yes the situation has changed and she can now.
I know its not. we did have something though and im not just saying that.
im not to sure exactly what i want to say though. I want it to be something like what i said above.
@username101,
Try to be a bit chill about it - nothing too strong. Nothing too dramatic.
You enjoyed spending time with her in the past and look forward to spending more time with her now.
That's really enough at this point.
@ehBeth,
Thank you. Yeah thats what i want to do. just keep it kool .
How about that you'd like to start up seeing her again and what does she think?
But really - what you have described is someone who talking about the past with a good friend. Perhaps she is just lonely.
What has she said or done that makes you think she wants to start up a romance with you again/
@PUNKEY,
Sounds good along those lines most likely.
Thats what has me realling. she hasnt said much, sometimes shes interested in talking sometimes shes not. She looks like she waits for me to start up a convo and if i dont then she'll say something and start a convo
but straight talk she hasnt come out and said anything. Dropping little hints like when she gets her license and i live close by she'll come and see me, and she wants to see me and hang out but she doesnt want to plan anything because we have bad luck when we plan things out (which is true).
other than that i do not know directly so im just waiting a little bit to see what happens.