true love: this is all relative to the observer - in this case, that is you.
For example, you and I could look at a specific work of art and both of us may have some very opposite reactions and preferences. What difference is it you what my perception of the art is? None. Your goal is to hang that work of art on your wall - not on mine.
The same analogy is true for selecting the love of your life. We both are humans..but we have much different likes/loves, tastes, preferences, motivations and passions.
You have to live with your choices and attempt to be fulfilled.