Soul mate as a junk phrase, discuss

I think the phrase is junk, too, but I can't deny that some people just click instantly and it never goes away. Seems to me that it takes two people meeting and liking each other, and both of them happen to be of a similar mindset. Regarding the harmony in the relationship as more important than any particular daily point of potential disagreement. Ability to compromise, able to communicate well, sympathetic and not judgemental, etc. I should make it clear that I'm NOT speaking from personal experience here.

At an advanced age I must have murmured something about soul mates and my business partner went off, no such thing, almost getting loud. I could see her point, her husband was a pain in anyone's ass, but she loved him and still does.

I'm in between, as I have been happy on occasions, connected, even years later as friends.

I just don't think agreement is the be all and end all..

I think it tends to imply destiny for some people, which is BS. But to others it merely implies a very significant degree of compatibility which is not.

If you believe you only have one soul mate out there in the world, then yeah that's bullshit. But if you believe you have found someone who is a good match for you to the degree you describe them that way it is not.

Yup. It takes a certain kind of person who is able to agree to disagree without letting it hurt the relationship.

I agree. A fair part of my bringing this up is that I see some new posters -- no, not all by any means, just that I notice some - - claim a lover as soul mate, which makes me almost respond in my then business partner's mode, but I shut myself up, as in, what do I know?

I think I think that connection isn't perfection of views.

sounds like youve had a bad relationship or two?

The ability to grow and change over the years is a biological fact. I guess I lucked out.
You keep friends over your life, why not a lover?

I dont see how one i different from the other. Course I dont do anything carnal with my male friends. even my female friends .

I've had a good relationship or two, to not quote you.

Indeed, I still talk with my ex husband happily by now, and others. I don't do facebook or all that, but I saw a book online by my first, I checked it out, and we still talk now.
He married the right woman, not me. Killed me at the time but even I think it was right and fitting. She was also a mountain climber. Picture me...

You might even be interested in that first lover's books. I'll post them on some other thread some sunny day.

I've some personal ironics.

My first lovers's wife turned out to be a good artist, once I read about it/her a long time later. (I'm a painter).

My second serious guy, a med person, later fell in love with another guy, who was all about gardens. I've stayed with them sometimes, yes, after talks.
Some years on all this can help. Oh, and I learned his mate was great with gardens some long time after I had a license in landscape architecture.

One of the trials of our marriage was my set of years studying landscape architecture/design. I would be up drawing at 4 a.m. and so on.
On the other hand, he was a writer, don't get me going.
He was fine with it, as I was, but....