The first experience I can remember having with religion was when I was 10. I know at that time we were attending an Episcopalian Church every Easter, and Christmas Eve and I hated it. Put me to bed at 8 pm then wake me up at 11 pm to drag me out in the freezing cold to go in this stuffy building, light a candle, sing a prayer, which all took like four hours I swear.... lol Not really... Maybe an hour and a half? Either way, be assured I would have much rather been in bed! The Easter before I turned 11 they announced that they were having a special class for the children after the Services on Sundays to teach them about the Apostles. I don't know why but I wanted to go. My parents didn't attend church regularly so they gave me permission to ride my bike to the church on my own. Man I was excited. From the very first class I remember having such a difficult time focusing on what he was saying because I've always had this crazy, wild, almost un tamable imagination. As he was talking it was almost like watching a movie in my brain. I remember now that absolute sense of wonder, childlike faith, anything is possible... anything.
Peter fascinated me from the very beginning. The dude was an epic failure in most everything he tried to do, and had a mouth that just couldn't stop sometimes... like me. Lol I don't know how I was even aware of that resemblance but I have always been very introspective I guess. About half way through the course he taught about when Peter walked on water. Man, I was so filled with excitement about that one that I ran up to the teacher after the class and asked, “Hey! Did that really happen? Could that really be done? Do you think maybe someday I could walk on water too?” He kinda scrunched up his eyebrows and scowled at me. He said, “You are too young to understand.” I was heartbroken. I thought that was why they were having the class. To teach us. I didn't go back to any more classes after that. The next several years are quite blurry still. I get bits and pieces here and there. My childhood memories are still quite limited. I remember being six years old sitting on the edge of the sink, looking out the window and crying. Wishing my mom would get home because my brother and sister were fighting... like for real beating the living crap out of each other, and I was terrified. I remember as I sat there wishing... hoping... and feeling disappointed I made the conscious decision that I would always be alone. Six years old.
My preteens were especially awkward as I apparently had a mouth that wouldn't quit in the fifth grade and pissed off the girl who in high school would be the ring leader of the popular girls. Around that time they also discovered that I had stopped growing. Everyone else was getting leaps and bounds ahead of me and here I was at the age of 15 with the bone age of an 11 yr old. There were certain kids through out the seventh and eighth grade that relentlessly picked on me about it. They would sing that song, “Short people got no reason to live” in the hallway every day, in between every class, and then on the bus in the morning and afternoon. Shooting spit wads at me. Just anything to make me cry. One day when I was 15 I got so sick of it I stood up, while the bus was moving, and started screaming at all of them. I got kicked off the bus. They had picked on me daily for months and no one said a word, but I stood up for myself and suddenly I got in trouble. I was so confused, hurt, and angry. I went home crying and was told to stop being a baby. Then was handed the consequence of walking the mile to and from school for the entire duration of being kicked off the bus.
In the meantime it was also decided by my parents that I should not be allowed to listen to the radio. So for my fifteenth or sixteenth birthday I received a tape recorder with three tapes. Kenny Rogers, John Denver, and Olivia Newton John. Honestly, strangely, music has always kind of been a driving force in my life. Kind of shaping my perspective of the world in ways I didn't even understand until recently. Due to the bullying, and low self esteem, I pretty much kept to myself as much as possible. I had a few friends, and was even accepted temporarily into the popular crowd in the 10th grade due to sharing an interest in horses with one of the popular girls. That only lasted three months. They all talked behind each others backs... all the freaking time. That wasn't “friendship” to me so I told them all to kiss off.
Yeah, that helped my high school career a lot. Lol I was in and out of hospitals for quite a while having every test known to man done on me to try and figure out why I wasn't growing. Eventually they found out I had some serious hormone deficiencies. They had me on Thyroid pills, Hydrocortizone?? Can't remember for sure. I just remember I had to wear a medic alert bracelet for quite a while because they said my body wasn't releasing the hormone to deal with stress, so I could have a heart attack if things got too stressful, like being in a car wreck, and needed a shot of that immediately. I was taking estrogen, progesterone, and giving myself shots three times a week of growth hormone for three years. Which really cramped my almost non existent social life, and was quite embarrassing and shameful to me for some reason. I have always internalized things, so I wrote. Poem after poem about suicide. By the time I was 18 I had a spiral notebook of somewhere around 110 poems about suicide. Several I had turned in to my English teacher as homework assignments and received back with a good grade and a note about trying to be more positive in the future. Or something like that.
I never applied myself at school. I was top of my class for the first two semesters of my freshman year. Pulling a 4.0. Then I realized how socially biased my school was. Very high society. I would write A+ papers in my journalism class every time and not once got published in the school paper. She told us the first day that anyone who got A's would be published, when in reality only the popular kids articles got put in. When I confronted the teacher about it things got heated and I ended up intentionally flunking out of that class... which ultimately is what caused me to be that ½ a credit short to graduate. I gave up on all classes after that. All effort. When I was sixteen I wrote a letter to one of the popular guys at school. Pouring out my heart about how much I hated my life. How invisible I felt. I don't even remember what all I said. As a matter a fact I had forgotten completely about the letter until about two months ago when I was going through some old journal entries. I wonder if I still have the one he gave me back somewhere. Hum. He was a christian. I didn't know that until he wrote back. I don't remember what all he said, except that he was very encouraging in everything, and told me God was waiting for me with His hand outstretched. I actually crumpled up that letter and was going to throw it away at first.
I was angry. I was like, God Shmod. What a load of crap. If there was a God my life would not be so miserable! I kept it though. For years actually, because that journal entry I was reading about it was from my early 20's and I had just found the letter in the pages of a notebook. I was always living under this umbrella of not feeling good enough. No matter what I did, or how hard I tried... It was just never good enough. As I said before, I was not allowed to learn how to, or do laundry. I was told if I touched the machines I would break them. My chore was the dishes. If there was one speck of food on anything... anything at all... I had to unload the entire dishwasher and redo it all. Just never good enough. My place of emotional escape when I couldn't be at horse camp in the summer was reading. All horse stories. Lol Not sure when exactly the fascination with horses started, but it was pretty young I think. When I got raped at the age of 18 that is where I was on my way to. The girl-scout camp that had become my refuge in the summertime. Once I got too old to be a camper they called me and asked me to come work out there.
I have always had a very special connection with horses. Able to communicate with and understand them in ways most people can't. After hearing Buck Branahan's story (The Horse Whisperer) I think I understand a little better now. I was allowed even as a camper to ride horses most of the staff wouldn't attempt to ride. The horse I was bringing back that year was one that I had leased from the owner while camp was not in session. The woman I told about the incident was a counselor that had been at the camp longer than I had been going. So her reaction was quite hurtful. My life began falling apart from that point. Literally, my pathetic little world was crumbling before my eyes and I didn't understand why or what I was suppose to do.
I will leave you with that for today.