Oh fer cryin' out loud.
Sorry, but can you listen to yourself for a moment?
You want all of the perks of a date and the attention etc. but in case it all goes to pot you want to not call it a date.
This is what getting a soda or a coffee is. It is an ambiguous meeting. Which is exactly what you are looking for.
It is not dinner. It is not alcoholic. It is not a commitment.
But it is a risk.
In life, we have to take risks in order to achieve rewards. This is a risk. Take it.
Because if you want to get anywhere in life, or anyone in life, you have to emerge from your protective bubble and take a risk every now and then.