Girlfriends

Oy, as they say.

Jesus Christ is another point of view.

Can anyone just talk any more?

It seems not, Oss.

Like most of us pre-electronic gadgetry people here, I used to spend hours and hours talking about anything and everything with my mates.
Politics, girls, motorbikes, cars, war, parents, sex, music, home life, puberty, TV, school, embarrassing stories, funny stories, telling jokes, general gossip..... you name it, we discussed it.

Memorable moments.

1. A group of us lying on our backs in the local park on a hot summers evening, listening to one of the first plays of Starman by David Bowie on some pirate radio station and discussing if there was anything out there.
All of a sudden a bright green meteorite shot overhead, making a loud ripping noise as it went.
We immediately all shat ourselves and ran for cover in the nearby bicycle shelter, as if a piece of corrugated iron would protect us.
The following day we read in the paper that it had crashed somewhere in Ireland. Working out the direction on a compass later on, it was definitely what we saw.

2. Discussing politics.
Real indepth discussions/arguments about the difference between the Labour and Conservative parties. Why large Unions were going out on strike. Were they right or wrong to do so. Wage controls, even though none of us were old enough to work at that time. The extortionate supertax, driving the Beatles and Stones etc out of Britain.
Do kids ever discuss such stuff nowadays?


3. Humour.
This is what I remember most from my formative years. The laughing. Every day something would happen to someone, or a subject for conversation would strike up that was incredibly funny, and we would all end up roaring with laughter.


There's a lot to be said for leaving the phones and tablets at home when you're young and just lying on your backs in the park, looking up at the stars.
I'm glad I was born when I was.

"Let all the children boogie."

What do you talk about when you see her in person?

Usually normal stuff. Dont see her a lot that shes not in most of my periods. What ever comes up I say, or say 1 joke we had. Really much it.

Maybe you want to read a book together and discuss it, or just an online article about teenagers who lost the art of small talk due to modern technology.
The internet is a wealth of information - get some topic that seems interesting for your age group and start discussing it. Where does she stand politically?
Does she have any interests, hobbies etc. where you can start talking about?

There are millions of topics, especially for teenagers - choose one! My 19 year old has always something to talk about, especially with her friends.

It might help if you actually spent more time together, just talking about general things, like TV shows or movies you like, or don't like, and why, the sort of music you enjoy, and things the two of you might like to do together in the coming weeks. Invite her to go for a cup of coffee, or to get some ice cream, so you have a chance to sit and talk face-to-face, and get to know each other a little better, and see if you can find some interests in common, or discover something about each other you didn't know before.

Best friend relationships need time to build and develop. You might well find things "sparking" more if the two of you weren't always communicating via electronic screens and if you were actually sharing some experiences together--like watching a movie or sporting event together, going to a museum or concert together, going out for lunch together, walking around a mall together etc--all of which would give you both loads of things to observe, think about, talk about, and share. The more time you spend together, the better you will know each other and the more relaxed and comfortable and natural and really personal your conversations with each other are likely to become--because that's how things develop between "very best friends."

So, I'd just give it more time, spend more time together, and engage in more types of activities together. That will also give you much more to text about and talk about when the two of you do connect on Skype.