Eva,
This thread is about being
out of character. However, I think I should share a few things that some here already may or not know. It isn't the clothing that makes a man or a woman, haven't you learned that yet?
It's in your heart, mind and your genes, not Levi's either. BBB has a thread about how scientists have proven that we are different genetically from other men and women. Like many others that I've met, I knew at a very early age that I was and am different.
The Lakota have a word for people like myself, Winkte (Pronounced Wink tay) literally translates to "neither man nor woman. Traditionally, Winkte, by whatever name the people use or used, were common amongst most tribal people. Even in europe before the nations formed, there were people such as myself.
A very small number of us still try to fulfill the traditional role our Winkte forefathers/mothers had. That life is one of commitment to helping people. It is very well respected by traditional peoples. Some are Healers of the Healers, caretakers for the elderly and sometimes children. Some follow a Spiritual Path and assist with and/or do Ceremonies on their own. We are givers of names and it's considered an honor to receive a name from a Winkte. We are teachers, mediators, counselors (often doing marriage counselling, because we understand both men and women) and advisors to the Community or Tribal Council...without having a vote on the outcome of things discussed. Some even marry, usually a man. Crazy Horse had a Winkte wife. Some of us do one or more of these things
There is also a traditional role for woman such as Sam. Wioptula (pronounced we op too la) is best translated to mean "woman warrior". There are recorded cases of the wonderful women becoming war chiefs. One was Chief Kate of the Cheyenne, whose picture hangs in our home. There were Wioptula in other native nations, some even marrying other women. (Gee, that sounds familiar. :wink: )
BTW, in the Native American communities that Sam and I travel in, often think of us as "The Oddest Couple." We don't fit any definite label, except Winkte and Wioptula. Even those within the Two Spirit Community will admit this. We're no better than anyone, just different. "Male and female" is fluid with us.
I own no man's clothing at all. Tshirts and pants show the changes in my body, where hormones have tricked it. No honey, I don't miss living or being that way. I wouldn't wish my life on anyone, but I wouldn't swap it for the world!
So, I guess another way for me to be out of character would be to go in "drag", as a man. I'd use rough language, drink, carouse with women, wear Levis a denim shirt, western belt, boots and scratch my crotch. I'd demand that Sam keep house and have dinner ready as soon as I came back from fishing, hunting or drinking. I'd lie like heck, cheat on Sam and pinch or insult waitresses. I'd know I was always right, 'cause I'd be a
real man. I'd tell crude jokes, not caring who was insulted. I'd be the first to start a fistfight and grin at my opponents injuries.
Sorry to disappoint you, but that's not me. I couldn't even force myself to go in "drag" on Holloween. I threatened it about four years ago at a gay club and it made people sputter,spray drinks and choke at the thought. Just seeing that reaction to the thought made the suggestion worthwhile
) I'd be a perfect secretary for my husband Sam. I'd have a very frilly home, be content to read romance novels, go to the local PTA (with or without children of my own) and be a regular "Suzy Homemaker. Politically, I'd be very conservative and never, ever get into heated discussions about politics or my Christian beliefs.