Is Preacher Overstepping?

My husband and I are going through some marital issues with possible separation. He recently confided in the minister that married us 13 years ago and also performed our kids' baptisms. We have remained in contact with him over the years, but are not members of his parish. After their meeting, the minister called me and said he would like to help my husband but cannot without knowing both sides of the story. I was furious that 1. my husband gave him my cell phone # to call me, and 2. that the minister himself didn't feel he was overstepping any boundaries by calling me unsolicited by myself. Is it wrong to feel that way? It's one thing for my husband to confide in whom ever he feels comfortable confiding in, but the proper way for both of them to have handled it would have been for my husband to come home and say, "I went to see so and so. He would like you to talk to him as well if you're willing, and then maybe both of us so we can try to work through this." I was so mad to be blindsided by this phone call from someone about my marital problems when I was neither ready or willing to discuss it with anyone whom I didn't choose myself.