@blackcanary,
Got to say that I'm also curious why if this was years and years ago, and obviously you two know each other a whole lot more, why you are asking this question? Surely, he gave you an answer then and surely years later if questioned he's given the same answer, aren't you meant to trust your partner of life? Not keep questioning? I think with Forums people read, they see something in particular and that is what they reply to, others, to an exact question.. I see no harm in Izzy's thoughts at all...
I like Punkey's answer though... Knock knock, let me in...