Stepfather wants to throw me in juvenile.

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Hi I'm reaching out because I need insight on this. I'm 16 male I live in missouri, and I wanted to know that is it possible for me to leave out of home if I'm being held there againsnt my will. And can my step father and biological mother put me into juvenile for leaving if I'm being emotionally abused . Yesterday i left the car because my step father whispers(pulled aside) my mom to tell her I couldn't stay in the car, even though my mom said I could. After i got out i confronted my stepfather about this and walked away in frustration to call my sister to come and pick me up. My sister willing to come and pick me up says that even tho she knows my situation says, they can call the cops on her to come and bring me home from her house.

My father just passed away a couple of months ago and I had to transition to Missouri to live with my mom and her husband. To make a long story short, my step father pulls my mom aside and whispers things to her on what she has to do. because I overheard him talking to my mom and saying "if you wanna be my wife, you have to do everything I tell you, without hesitation. u understand? Ive been on punishment for about. Weeks now and they have assigned me an extra month this month. Because I had to come home yesterday

What has been going on is that, I feel like he's trying to turn my mom against my family because when my sisters or relatives try to help me, my mom now rejects their help because my stepfather has implanted in her head that. My sisters and relatives are trying to run things, their trying to make a fool out of you and ,saying that they can't make any rules in my house (I understand this one and my sisters aren't trying to make rules, but are only trying to do things in my best interest by asking my mom could they do certain things concerning me). He has also implanted in her head that. Shes the mom and she knows best and that you're not suppose to correct the mom, she had you, you didn't have her. So my mom is now rejecting my siblings help, because of my stepfather who I have only lived with for about 3 months now is telling her that basically even when she is in error we cant correct her because she is the mom. Whenever I try to voice my opinion my mom tries to talk over me, saying I'm backtalking and contending and then raises her hand and restorting to hitting me for speaking my mind. I feel trapped with nowhere to run to at this point. I don't want to run to my sisters and have them go to jail because I ran out of my stepdads house to go to them. And if I do leave home my stepfather said I only have 1 chance to act right and "obey", he told her to take away my phone to prevent me from taking to family, and if i do contact one of them about whats going on inside the house they are sending me to juvenile, He says I'm disobeying / disrespecting my mom, how can i be disobeying my mom when they aren't even her words in the first place. And he tells her what to do and say,

I'm not a bad teenager, I have good grades, 12th grade and taking ACT test this spring, attend a private school for which my siblings pay the tuition for me to go. I'm very intelligent, I do photography, video editing, computer coding and 3d modeling, and i want to be an architect and major in Architecture and have a minor in Interior design . My mom dosent realise that throwing me in a juvenile will prevent me of many opportunities and delay me of getting the proper education I need.

I cry at night in the dark because of this and I'm just tired of this nonsense, is there any legal action I can take against him.

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Yes, call CPS and get an interview. If you have a sister who's willing to take you in, by all means do that.

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Good question - I don't know the answer myself, but am responding to "bump up" the thread. This man seems from your description to be a classic controller.

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@sjsm,

Ask your sisters to call CPS. Most courts will allow a 16 year old decide who to live with, providing they can provide suitable support. Is there an adult at school who can assist, guidance counselor, trusted teacher?

I don't think your idiot stepfather can actually drop you off at juvenile, what will he tell the authorities, "I don't like him to be in the car?", however, I would not pin all my hopes on everyone recognizing this man to be such a control freak. See if your siblings can do some research on your behalf. Since you father died before you turned 18, you are entitled to social security benefits. This money can only legally be used by you. Your stepfather may be intercepting the checks and using them for his personal benefit. Your siblings should look into this for you.

The reason I'm suggesting your siblings do these things on your behalf is to prevent you from any negative fallout from your stepdad or mother. I don't know why they insist you stay with them, but I am deeply suspicious. It is vital that you proceed carefully and with a plan. You may even need a lawyer who can make sure your rights and well being are properly protected.

Please proceed carefully, you are absolutely entitled to a better life, try not to give in to despair (I know it won't be easy) but you are not property, you are a minor but no one should have to deal with the mental and verbal abuse. Another thing to remember, your stepfather has no standing to make decisions for you. Unfortunately your mother seems under his control and I doubt she will be of any help and will defer to his opinion.

Make sure your computer doesn't reveal anything that would anger the stepfather, be careful, please.

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@glitterbag,

Agree with you all the way, glitterbag. Well said.

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@ossobuco,

Pls follow Glitterbag's advice. No one here is trying to alarm you unnecessarily; however, this is a serious matter. He's a controlling your Mom and not any good way (there could never be a good way). Pls consider that she is temporarily out of reach of her good common sense. She might be also fearful of her own safety and welfare. I'd consider the fact that you are currently not really safe, too.

You might want to show this info-advice ONLY to your trusted adult who can act on your behalf. Do not print this (or any such info) unless you can bring it to someone trusted or always know where the copy is and always have it in safekeeping until the printout serves it purpose. Afterwards destroy the printout. Also delete links (cookies) on your computer to here. It might be a good idea to contact the trusted person much sooner rather than later.

It could be that his threats are empty, but no one with any sense of how to treat children or adults would ever threaten someone with juvenile court or whatnot if they were right-thinking adults. No reason for you take any more risk at ALL!

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Paul Simon knows where you're coming from: click Me And Julio.

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@sjsm,

Dear sjsm, I'm not trying to frighten you, but it appears you left a safe environment sadly because you lost your father, and now you are in crazy land. Coming from a safe home, losing your dad are two major whammies that would crush the emotions of a grown adult. What I'm hoping you can do, is stay out of their way, don't argue, and let your siblings get you out of this situation. You sister will not risk jail time if she allows you to stay with her. But again, your sister needs to get advice from CPS or a lawyer to get you the protection you need. Don't argue with your mother and her husband, they appear to be lying to you about drastic actions (juvenile detention, locking your sister up) and remember this, your father had custody for good cause. I can only imagine how painful and unfair this is for you. Never forget that you are not the problem, your mother made poor choices, and her husband is a control freak.

Your mothers acquiescence to her husband makes me very angry. I left an abusive marriage when my son was only a little more than two years old. I made a decision that I would never marry again unless I was certain the new husband would treat my son as his own. I was lucky to find such a man, but even after we married, he would have been kicked to the curb if he was ever abusive to me or my child. I'm sorry for your mother, she seems to be too afraid to protect you.....and that's why it's imperative to get out of that house. Please just be smart about how to make that happen.

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@glitterbag,

Thank you for replying so infomatively, I can see its comming from your heart. That's makes me smile to see someone that I don't know, care so much. I will contact my siblings and ask them could they talk to cps today. Ill stay strong and hang in there, and also thanks to the other people who replied. <3

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@sjsm,

Please, please, please keep us informed as you're able to. It might be hard to understand...especially with all these emotions and fears you might have flying around in your life. We are caring community (for the most part) and this does matter. Please be safe no matter what you do. I also hope for the safety or your Mom, too.

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