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Should I let my husband sleep with another woman.

 
 
FOUND SOUL
 
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Reply Thu 18 Apr, 2013 05:06 pm
@BabyCakes,
God sex life sound good to me Wink

There are alot of questionables about allowing your partner to sleep with someone else, on the inset, you may feel "fine" believing that it won't make him stray or feel any in-different to you.

However, these are the things you have to consider after...

Did he like her more? Was she better than you? Will he now want it again? Do you now feel jealous? Do you now feel that you aren't the only one anymore...not as important....

Will you now look at his facebook, phone, computer? Will you always now be wondering....

It's a dangerous road to go down, especially at your age. It sounds as if you are young and love can be blind... This overwhelming love for someone you would do anything for?

My only advice if you do decide to go ahead, is to ensure it is with a total stranger that you are 100% certain he will never be able to contact again.

However, I'd also like you to look at your personality and ask yourself the above questions because I am betting, at least one of those feelings / thoughts or actions you WILL do, if you go through with it..and it could ruin your marriage in the long run.

How about holding back for 5 years or so, when you are both more mature and see how you think then.

In addition, I'd communicate with him and discuss the porn. The more he sees, the more he wants if you want to do anything, discuss new adventures together, it could be all he is missing not another "body" and ask him to curve the amount of times he is viewing porn out of respect for your marriage.
maxdancona
 
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Reply Thu 18 Apr, 2013 05:50 pm
@FOUND SOUL,
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My only advice if you do decide to go ahead, is to ensure it is with a total stranger that you are 100% certain he will never be able to contact again.


If you read the post, she is considering taking him to a brothel in Nevada. This seems to meet your criteria pretty well. I think your comment about porn is ridiculous. The only men that never look at porn are religious... and even they are lying.

I have a theory that narrow, traditional views of marriage come from religion.

Are those of you, who are opposing this couples open discussion of sex, religious?
FOUND SOUL
 
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Reply Thu 18 Apr, 2013 06:03 pm
@maxdancona,
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I think your comment about porn is ridiculous. The only men that never look at porn are religious... and even they are lying.


You're welcome to your own opinion.. Did I however state, "never" look at porn? Or bring in religion? Or, did I "suggest" that perhaps the two of them could experiment more sexually, given they are young and that perhaps he doesn't need to look at porn "as much" and that by bonding intimately and learning about each others bodies as a married couple, perhaps HE will not want to look at porn as much.....

Religion has nothing to do with it.
maxdancona
 
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Reply Thu 18 Apr, 2013 06:18 pm
@FOUND SOUL,
I believe that religious people are much more uptight and narrow about sex and marriage. Religion certainly puts a lot of restrictions sexuality and relationships in general. How could it not be relevant to the discussion.

There are cultures that don't have these hangups.







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roger
 
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Reply Thu 18 Apr, 2013 06:24 pm
@BabyCakes,
If you even ask the question, the answer is yes.
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cicerone imposter
 
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Reply Thu 18 Apr, 2013 09:25 pm
People do what they want to - in the end. Whether the spouse allows their partner to sleep around creates all kinds of issues that hasn't been discussed or acknowledged.

STD anyone?
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BillRM
 
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Reply Fri 19 Apr, 2013 08:20 am
@maxdancona,
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have a theory that narrow, traditional views of marriage come from religion.


As a card carrying atheist I think that sharing your husband or wife in a sexual manner is not a good idea.
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