@Frank Apisa,
I think what you are getting at is the difficulty in "
stepping outside" of yourself to reflect objectively upon your conception of morality.
This is "
objective" conception is at the heart (I think) of much of the debate surrounding objective/relative morality.
Relativists maintain that "
stepping outside" of yourself (your person, your culture, your society) is fully impossible and therefore meaningless.
Moral realists can take one of two positions:
Pre-Enlightenment
The absolute morality has some outside correlation to "something else" (God/the good of the species/the teachings of a certain person).
-or-
Enlightenment
There exists a moral reality, but we can never be "sure" of it. We can try our best to look at things objectively and this is the proper goal. It is impossible to be entirely objective (pragmatically) but the goal is the important part. The striving for moral truth.
This was (from my understanding) the original enlightenment position. That is the position prior to
cultural relativism.
Cultural Relativism ("I'm ok, you're ok, we're all ok.") fad of the modern era.
We can't be objective, so there no such thing as morality.
This is the deconstruction of morality.
I think this fad is patently ridiculous. There are things in cultures that are quite rightly NOT OK. It is an act of intellectual and moral cowardice to make excuses for it.