Really? "Why are you a bigot?" is not a question I think naturally occurs to me to ask someone (or "why not interracial marriage?").
See and my response to that is 'Really?' Because it naturally occurs to me to ask people why they believe or are or do something all the time. In fact I have asked people, 'Why are you so prejudiced against so and so?' I've also asked thieves at work 'Why do you think it's alright to steal from other people?'
The other day we were all having a conversation about 'stitching people up' or 'dropping someone in it' - which in prison parlance means accusing and framing someone for something they didn't do.
I would never do that - so I can't imagine why anyone else would. The only way I can learn about it is to ask them 'Why?' I already know the How and What as they manifest themselves. I want to know the 'Why'.
But I was an extremely curious child and have grown into an extremely curious adult. If I can't fathom something, I like to hear why other people believe they have the right to behave the way they do and what in their experience has been so different from mine that they have come to beliefs on the completely opposite end of the spectrum from mine.
And sometimes racists don't lack compassion toward ALL people - they just lack compassion toward the object of their bias.
And I want to know why- what in their experience feeds this bias?
And as it relates to interracial marriage - I'm EXTREMELY interested and curious to hear other views toward a decision I made for myself and my children.
Doesn't mean I'll be swayed to the other side and I may and probably won't like what I hear - but it'll give me an insight into those people, another viewpoint, a point of reference that I may not have ever thought about before and a clearer indication of what me and my children might be up against instead of just assuming - 'Oh I'm so much smarter than this person - I already know what he's thinking and why and I don't need to even consider that I could learn something more about the world I live in.'
Not HOW TO BE in the world I live in - but more about what the world I live in is truly like.
Because you know something? It just about made my mouth drop open in disbelief to read that 46% of Mississipians believe interracial marriage is not only not okay as a personal choice but that it should be illegal.
I want to know why. I also would like to see the racial breakdown of the respondents and how they responded.
Might not only be white people who don't agree with it. Might be alot of black republicans who don't believe it should be legal too. And I bet their reasons would be very different from the white republicans who believe it should be illegal.
Yeah - why is the first word that came into my head. But then it usually always is. I probably was a very irritating kid - one of those that always asked, 'Why is the moon so far away?' and 'Why does the ocean look blue sometimes and green other times?' Luckily I've always had people in my life who understand that I like to learn and that's how I learn.
I ask questions- even when I think I might already know the answer - and especially when I stumble upon an apparent answer I just can't fathom - I want to know 'why?'