Yes, BBB, I understand.
My father passed and at the next possible opportunity my mother cornered me in the lobby of a grocery store to tell me that the only thing she could not keep from his estate was a life insurance policy, and that we needed to get together so my sister and I could sign and get a portion. She implied that her estate is a couple of million, and that it will go to charity if my sister and I don't come back into the fold and suck up.
I finally looked at her and said, "You are going to do whatever you are going to do. You are just playing games, and that's the reason I do not associate with you in the first place." The next time I spoke to her, she cornered me in the Walmart and told me she would give me $12,500, BUT, I had to 'tell her that I wanted it', i.e. "ASK" for it. I said something to the affect of 'sure, go ahead and send it' and she said, "No, you have to TELL me that you WANT it."
Seen any flying bacon lately?
Oh, and they whole insurance policy was a ploy...seems that there was about $15,000 she couldn't get without applying for it. Otherwise it would be split between her 3 (natural born) children. She needed us to play nice until she got that 15 grand in her pocket. lol