Let's see if ebrown changes his tune if I say my friend is mexican american.
Cute Osso. I get your story and I understand your point.
Sexism is analogous to racism, and I am not at all saying that sexism isn't a problem. If I have a stereotype of women of a certain body type (or of women in general) that affects the way I act or treat people, this is sexism. If society has policies or practices that discriminate against women, that is even worse. If your friend were having problems finding a job or being accepted to college or getting equal pay, I would be full supportive of her. A story about romantic relationships seems fundamentally different.
Let's call sexism and racism as they are, and let's work to change policies and practices to make our society more just for all.
You are not addressing my question about "objectification", particularly why is it significant, and what as society we should do about it.
If "objectification" means the same thing as "sexism" (i.e. discriminatory practices against women based on prejudices) then the answer is clear. I fully support equal, and strict enforcement of sexual harassment laws.
I support frank discussion about the images of women as they are portrayed, as long as the discussion is direct and honest. The term sexism is clear, honest and is not misleading in any way. If you claim something is sexist, I may disagree, but at least we both know what we are talking about and can have a direct conversation. The term "objectification", and the resulting discussions, are neither clear nor honest.
When "objectification" means "sexual attraction", it is a completely different situation. It is very difficult to see how sexual attraction can be sanctioned. I can't imagine that anyone wants to remove sexual attraction from society.
The problem with the term "objectification" is that it refers to too many things. Sometimes it means "sexism", sometimes it means "sexual attraction". This seems manipulative. And, it certainly doesn't lead to a direct, clear discussion over real issues.
Sexuality is part of human experience and is something to be enjoyed. Courtship involves physical attraction which can be expressed in appropriate ways. There is such a thing as wanted attention, and there are socially accepted ways to do this. Surely we all understand that what is appropriate in a dance club is different then what is appropriate in a workplace.
Many people enjoy sensual images from Hollywood to romance novels to adult entertainment. There is nothing wrong with this, and it doesn't imply that you will treat friends or co-workers or even lovers any different.
When "Victoria's Secret" -- a store that that appeals to romance, sensuality and fantasy -- is being referred to as "objectification" (with all of the negative connotations that is attached to "sexism") doesn't make sense. It certainly doesn't have anything to do with real issues, such as the victory of the Lilly Ledbetter act or the travesty of the failure of colleges to address rape.
Let's talk about real issues directly.