Joe Nation wrote:
I think homeschooling is a bad idea. I would never limit my children to the thoughts of one teacher, even if that teacher was me.
My thoughts exactly, Joe. But I don't want them to limit to my thoughts. They have their own . I am learning to give up all parental control as I grow as a parent. I think the way school system is designed it curbs individuality and dows not produce free and critical thinkers. I don't remeber anything memorable about school and their is very little that I use in what I do today. (I am a physician)
I think adding
to children's education by reading together, by going to interesting places and by finding other ways to feed the kiddo's curiosities about life is a better idea
That is exactly what I will be able to do when I do homeschooling.
Joe(Are you already reading to your children at night, right?)Nation
My 8yo tested at a ninth grader reading level so he reads independently. I do read to the 4yo.
For my son - it never even entered my thoughts. He was a very mainstream kind of kid who thrived in any school environment he encountered and he took full advantage of the sports teams and extra-curricular activities, etc.
So is mine and I always chersihed that until I read some new books talking about how in the current age kids are being raised by their peers instead of parents. By putting both parents in the work force this system has taken away the luxury to raise our kids the way we want to. Somehow when I see mainstream I do not want him mainstream.
School as it's traditionally formatted worked for him. And taking him out of that situation academically and socially would have been more of a punishment than anything positive.
I have asked him multiple times that I plan to start with his sister and he consistently replies that he wants me to teach him , which amazed me because this kid never missed a day of school and loved the socialization. But according to the my new philosophy it is not that good when they go to school for socialization and learning becomes secondary.
He doesn't have the patience to listen to me and I don't have the patience to try to make him.
Mine does listen to me although he is also a clone of me so at times it is challenging because I know when he is trying to outsmart me.
My daughter is a different story. For various reasons - school as it is typically formatted has been very difficult for her. Not because she's not bright - she is. She doesn't seem to need as much social interaction with her peers and she and I can work together really, really well.
But I still never did it - mainly because as Joe said, I thought the better solution was for me to supplement whatever areas I found wanting in her schooling outside the home.
My daughter too is a different story, bright and very independent. But I see that even though it is a montessori school just being a school it is curbing her independence and forcing her into conformity. I do not want that for her.
We're making it through that way okay- which is good, because I like to work outside the home.
I like working outside as well as inside but working outside has a potential of effecting my kids and I will not let that happen.
I find that I need the stimulation of other people and activities everyday.
Me too, but somehow the most interesting people I have ever met happen to be my children.
That might be something you want to think about - how suited are you to spending every single minute of every single day with your kids.
Will the teaching take away from your ability to enjoy being their mother?
I do not know. I have the reassurance that it can always be reversed if it does not work out.
But if you do want to homeschool, but also provide interaction and socialization with other students for your child - and even other teachers- there are homeshcooling collectives- families who pool resources and talents and create sort of a homeschooling classroom. That way your children still gets the variety of having different people and perspectives around, but the more closely monitored and individualized education you might find appealing or necessary for them to have.
Yes, Thanks for a very thoughtful response. So far I have not met anyone who is doing it and regrettigng it. I am going to a home schooling convention in July. Will keep you posted.