Eva wrote:Well, I've been thinking about this nonstop for two days.
Here's what I think.
You KNOW I'm enthusiastic about you starting your photography business. And you KNOW I think Jillian is absolutely adorable. And I have absolutely nothing against child modeling or earning a few bucks.
BUT...
I don't think this is right.
The money that Jillian earns is HER money. It should be set aside and saved for HER, not you. It could start a college fund or pay for a car when she turns 16, or any number of things she will need. She'll be the one doing the work and getting paid. It will be her money.
Bottom line: the reason you're considering this is because you need income. Not because it would be a great experience for Jillian, or because it would be a lot of fun, or any of a hundred other reasons. It's because you want the money she could earn for you. And that, my friend, sounds dangerously close to pimping your daughter.
So...when she turns 16 and sees printed photos of her adorable child-self in the baby book, and you tell her she modeled when she was little (or some friend or relative brags about it, and they will)...and she asks how much she made, and where it went (she's sharp, she'll ask)...what are you gonna say then? "Mama spent your money on her photography business..."???
Huh uh. There has to be another way to raise some cash. Don't use Jillian to further your career.
(Don't shoot.)
I dunno. Much as I love you, Eva, and you know that I do, I have a different take on this. These three people, especially these three, are a family, a unit. And in a family, everyone helps out with everything. I think if Bean is not being exploited, and she wouldn't be, from what I've seen of her parents - then it'd be fine. Everyone does their bit towards the common goal, which is a better standard of life, in this case.
You know Mr. & Mrs. Wolfie LOVE her and would never hurt her or put her in an uncomfortable position. Well, we all know that. She's a precious little treasure. But if they tried out this modelling and Bean was cool with it, I'd go for it.
Another point - I don't think it's HER money, I think it's THEIR money. Think of child support. Not ALL of it goes to the kid's food, etc. It often goes into the family coffers for everything. (Not that I've ever had child support, but this is what I'd expect). Or alimony - surely that mother would spend some of that on the kids. It's a family unit.
Bottom line, though... I always, always, always go with my gut and if this is bothering you, Shewolf, don't do it or put it aside for now. But if it's not bothering you, go for it. Keep the assignments simple and spaced out (time-wise) so it doesn't get to her. You know what to do. You're a smart cookie and loving mama.