Complain? Me?
Not really. Traffic jams bother me in the sense that I have to deal with those people who push forward and rudly cut off other cars ( Many causing accidents that I have to then stay to be a witness for) just so they can get a car length ahead in 5 mile an hour traffic.
THAT bothers me.
THAT is something I complain about.. that is a safety issue..but I dont tell everyone. Usually me and my husband have a bitch fest in the car which turns in to comedy hour and fast.
Same goes for ordering food. Unless it is delivered with table pepper spice in it, I dont really care. Table pepper hurts my stomach . I can not eat that and I will return it.
I ask for noodles and you give me rice? Cool. I can share with my daughter.
I ask for Tofu and you give me Seitan? Even better. I can take that home and have it with noodles.
Friends.. relatives? -I call you , you dont call me? Cool. Road trip. Im coming to your house.. HA!
It is so much easier to just stop worrying about everything then it is to try to make everything perfect.
I used to have a client who was the perfect example of what contrex said-
'Knows the price of everything and the value of nothing'
After working with her for almost 2 years, I made several changes in my own life that simplify my emotions, needs and requirements.
That woman scared me. And she was the perfect example of the mindless shopper and unthinking majority of people. Could , and sometimes would.. rattle off the price of something as it was falling apart , and wondering where to get another for cheaper. Everything was about cost, price, and how to get it. Family 'outings' were days at the mall, Target stores or other retail places.
But.. (shudder) i am not going to go there..
AS for clerks..
Im of the mind that they are ALLOWED to have bad days. They are ALLOWED to not greet me if they feel bad. They are human as well.
So what. They dont justify my person by their actions.
My day does not revolve around them. My life is not at the mercy of their attitude.
If they are angry.. so be it. As soon as I walk away from that counter, nothing of them matters in my life.Not even my purchase. If it is wrong, I can correct it. I will never see them again ( well.. I may.. but still.. doesn't matter) and they don't hold an important place in my world. Who cares if they sneer. I am not going to "correct" them.. sheesh.. Im not their mother for christs sake.
Im not going to 'tell the manager' unless they are extremely rude..
People are allowed to be people. Attitude and all. ( this of course does not include sexual insults or behavior, and out right rudeness..)
They dont have to bow down to me and greet me as if I am the queen of fkn Africa or something. They dont even really have to say hello. Their job is to take my order, or ring up what ever it is I am purchasing. Not kiss my feet. Not compliment my person. Not ensure that I fell good about myself . They are not dime store psychologists.
So what.