ebrown_p wrote:I think the co-worker was rude. Publically pointing out the gaffes of others is boorish, especially given the fact that you could have had a very good reason for not being able to bring food.
I agree and didn't say that he shouldn't have eaten the food for the same reasons (assuming there was more than enough to go around).
The woman was a boob, but it made him feel bad and Jeremiah has indicated that he won't participate at all the next time. I think that's biting off his nose to spite his face. If snide comments from boorish people bother him, my advice is to not give them anything to be boorish about, rather than remove himself from what could otherwise be a great lunch. That, or grow a thicker skin and not be sensitive about what the office folks think/say about him.
One office I'm familiar with has come up with an alternative to bringing a dish for the potluck. They collect a couple bucks from those who know they aren't going to be able to provide anything homemade (usually the younger, single guys but not always) and then one of them agrees to stop by KFC or some such place and provide a bucket of chicken for the table.