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Reply Tue 27 Jun, 2006 07:05 am
Well, I have been hunting apts lately,
I have been looking at MANYapts over the past week (tis why I am not around to post )
And , I may be counting my chickens before they hatch.... we might
have found one just up the street. ( yeeaaahhhh! )
The owner of the property is a great guy. It isnt abig company so I
can work with him on a personal level wich i like MUCH better, and he
is ok with us having Buttercup. Where as most apts consider her a large
breed at 52 lbs.

The downside is that the lease for his current tennant is up at the
end of July. So that means, if we get it, we cant move until august
1st or 3rd and couldnt sign the lease to ;lock it in; until probally
mid july.

That sort of leaves us balls to the wall when it comes to MILs rage, wich has found a new fuel. Its called a boyfriend.


I never told MIL that we were looking for a place before last night, because I wanted to keep her anger at bay because i know for a fact she will have a real problem with this.
But yesterday, she told Ian... not me.. that she wanted him out. (?)
Out of the blue.
. . I figured as soon as she found out we were leaving, she would throw one of her classic child-ish fits ( like she is now) and would have told us to get out right then. But instead, she is doing it now.
Wich is ok by me. But I knew this was coming.

Long story short, her so called new boyfriend HAS a home of his
own.. .but in reality, she cant drive there when she wants to because she is too drunk. So he has to come here. And she doesnt want us here when he is here.

I absolutly understand that. I have NO problem with giving her that space either. It is HER home and HER space, she should have a right to have HER privacy when she wants it. But , it feels ... wierd..
Wich leads me to believe he might be a drunk just like she is. Wich is why I have been searching for an apt so furiously, since learning about him.
Almost accepting an effeciency just to get out of her wake.
Now she says she needs her 'own space' to sober up.

I can ABSOLUTLY understand that she is ready to have her house back.
On a human level I truly feel for her having a house full of people
all the time while she is grieving.
Now that the grieving is over, she wants a 'new start'
Again.. I completely understand.

I just hate that she is drunk when she makes these decisions and
apparently thinks we can afford to move out at the drop of a hat.
We have to have a place for 550 or less.. so tell me where the hell
people can find that in austin with out having to share a place with a
student, or hold a gun in your hand while you sleep!? ya know??!

but ranting aside, at this second we are safe. But she is out of control and can at any time, insist again that we need to leave right away.
I am meeting with the apt owner today and will hopefully get to see
the place so I can hand him some money.

HOPEFULLY!
so.. ju-ju? thoughts? prayers? please?
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dadpad
 
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Reply Tue 27 Jun, 2006 07:40 am
No great advice from me sweetness just a willing and sympathetic ear.



((((((((((((shewolf))))))))))
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sozobe
 
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Reply Tue 27 Jun, 2006 09:40 am
Is there any way that this could be parlayed into a positive? Like, if it's at her instigation, can you just say that you are more than willing to move out but absolutely can't afford it right now, so if she could help you out financially to tide you over, you're out much more quickly? (Do you really want to be just down the street?)
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shewolfnm
 
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Reply Tue 27 Jun, 2006 05:04 pm
thanks.

no. I truly dont want to be down the street but this is the first acceptable apt that is dog friendly and affordable.

I dont have to answer the door though. And truthfully, I wont.

I love this location and like the fact that we can stay here because it keeps Ian close to the bus stop and allows me to keep the calculated travel time for my clients.

But it doesnt mean that I have to see the monster .

I told her that we have already been on the hunt for an apt before she said anything. That pissed her off because she now doesnt have that power over us either ( being the one to suggest we go) But it DID buy us some time...........I hope.

I know this is the end of the line and the way I am feeling right now, i dont know if i care that i ever see her again.
She has done alot for us. Hands down.
But for everything she has done, she has been so abusive , it has rocked my world. I am secretly glad that this is happening because it adds fuel to my fire.

If i am not able to post for a few days though, know I was probally kicked out and I will be back as soon as I can.
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shewolfnm
 
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Reply Wed 28 Jun, 2006 07:53 am
Would it be considered rude, or improper to keep calling an aptartment owner about an opening he will have later in July???

He gave me his number, and told me to call.

I called him yesterday and he wasnt there so I left a message giving him MY number..
I am feeling desperate and i want to get ahold of him.
I would almost hand him deposit money fo rthe apt sight unseen just to know we are safe..
but I dont want to scare him away..
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Chai
 
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Reply Wed 28 Jun, 2006 09:57 am
hey - I don't know everything about the MIL story, except she's a drunk and now has a drunk boyfriend and has been making your life miserable for a while.

OK - we're talking 33 days here until August 1.

33 days in the vastness of the universe.

From what I've read on and off about MIL, it seems she's asked for a lot of concessions in the past....maybe it's time for her to return the favor.

Also, since she's a drunk, I myself would have no problem playing the guilt card with her, as in...

"YOU want to kick your Two Year Old Grandbaby out on the STREET?" type of thing.

oh yeah, and "I can't BELIEVE you would risk your little grandbabys safety by kicking us out like this! How is this poor little girl going to deal with her GRANDMA doing this to her?"

Yeah, it's not politically correct and all that crap, but it's what she understands.
You do what you gotta do. You're not dealing with a rational person, so just pull out all the stops.

Then, when you're gone, you're gone. I totally agree with you about living right down the street. No one forces you to answer your door.

This is the light at the end of the tunnel...33 days and counting down.
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shewolfnm
 
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Reply Thu 29 Jun, 2006 07:26 am
well, I am off today to look at 7 places that are open and in our price range.
I found an apt locator who was willing to meet me on very short notice and has a list of places we can afford.

Since they are all currently empty, I could reasonably look-lease today.

Hopefully, this time tomorrow I will be packin my **** and out the door. Very Happy
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sozobe
 
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Reply Thu 29 Jun, 2006 07:46 am
Sounds promising, good luck!
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BumbleBeeBoogie
 
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Reply Thu 29 Jun, 2006 10:04 am
shewolf
Shewolf, you are a strong woman and a survivor. I know you will find a way. The Bean can help.

BBB
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djjd62
 
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Reply Thu 29 Jun, 2006 10:33 am
Movin' Out (Anthony's Song)
Billy Joel

Anthony works in the grocery store
Savin' his pennies for someday
Mama Leone left a note on the door,
She said,
"Sonny, move out to the country."
Workin' too hard can give you
A heart attackackackackackack
You oughta know by now
Who needs a house out in Hackensack?
Is that all you get for your money?

It seems such a waste of time
If that's what it's all about
Mama, If that's movin' up then I'm movin' out.
Mmm, I'm movin' out. Ooh-hoo, uh-huh, mmmm

Sergeant O'Leary is walkin' the beat
At night he becomes a bartender
He works at Mister Cacciatore's down
On Sullivan Street
Across from the medical center
Yeah and he's tradin' in his Chevy for a Cadillacacacacacacacac
You oughta know by now
And if he can't drive
With a broken back
At least he can polish the fenders

And It seems such a waste of time
If that's what it's all about
Mama, If that's movin' up then I'm movin' out.
Mmm, I'm movin' out. Ooh-hoo, uh-huh, mmmm

You should never argue with a crazy mi-mi-mi-mi-mi-mind
You oughta know by now
You can pay Uncle Sam with the overtime
Is that all you get for your money?

And if that's what you have in mind
yeah if that's what you're all about
Good luck movin' up 'cause I'm movin' out.
Mmm, I'm movin' out. Ooh-hoo, uh-huh, mmmm

I'm movin' out...
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Chai
 
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Reply Thu 29 Jun, 2006 05:37 pm
Well we're movin on up,
To the east side.
To a deluxe apartment in the sky.
Movin on up
To the east side.
We finally got a piece of the pie.

Fish don't fry in the kitchen;
Beans don't burn on the grill.
Took a whole lotta tryin'
Just to get up that hill.
Now we're up in the big leagues
Gettin' our turn at bat.
As long as we live, it's you and me baby
There ain't nothin wrong with that.

Well we're movin on up,
To the east side.
To a deluxe apartment in the sky.
Movin on up
To the east side.
We finally got a piece of the pie.
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Stray Cat
 
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Reply Thu 29 Jun, 2006 06:08 pm
Good luck, shewolfie! I hope you've found something, signed the lease, handed in the deposit, and are currently packing your sh!t!

I agree with Chai Tea. Being down the street is a damn site better than being in the house with the old bag....uh, I mean, MIL....

If your MIL wants her space, I doubt she's going to be knocking on your door. If she has a drinking problem, it's very doubtful you're going to see her jogging by your living room window. She's probably just going to stay in her own house.

Just hang in there! It won't be long now. I'm sending out all my most positive vibes your way!
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