Where's my love?

I always wonder when I write something like this if it should be in the Original Writing forum...aaah, whatever...

It's always good stuff..always heartfelt

Yeah...nice stuff.

have you tried looking amongst the cushions on the couch, i find lot's of things there











and hey, if you don't find your love, you'll probably find some m&m's

I think I saw her in a library in Rochester, she's not a big fan of bar pickups.

I saw her on a pole at the local titty bar. She said to tell you she'll be late and to just hold on a bit longer.

(and in all seriousness, she's out there. It's all about timing.) :wink:

You know what helps me.. I look up into the sky and I think to myself that the person meant to be with me may be staring up at the sky at the same time.. wondering where I am also....

Ok, maybe that won't help too much

Ooooohhhhhh Kicky..

Im right here sweetie, dont worry.
You are going to stumble right over me and not even see me. Then , when you least expect it, your comfort level with me will be so that you cant distinguish me from your best friend.. then you will know I belong with you and your life is most comfortable when shared with me and me alone.
Dont worry kicky , i love you too.. we just have not realized it yet.


>dramatic sniffle<

Say goodby to NY, and hello to Florida, and to the love that is waiting there for you.

When you're not looking, you will find her.

Angelique has it right



...she's setting on a beach, waiting...she keeps looking at her watch, wondering where you are....she frowns because you're taking too damn long to get there :wink:

Incredible I was thinking of the beach when I was typing it.

And Kicky pleeeeeease try some of that tenderness you have.

This chorus from Lee Roy Parnell is apropos Kicky:


There's a lesson I learned

When a love stays true

If you look long enough

You'll find the one who was looking for you

That's true, Green Witch. I've often thought that the person I'm looking for is more likely to be in a library than in a bar.

But the fact is, we -- as a society -- are just getting more and more impersonal. Let's say you see someone in a library that you think is attractive. So you approach them, try to make some conversation -- and then what? Try to ask them out?

The thing is -- is still boils down to a "pick up" -- whether it's in a bar or a library. We have become a "pick-up" society.

You're out there trying to find someone with whom you'd like to have a meaningful relationship -- maybe spend the rest of your life with them -- and the only way you can meet them is by approaching them as a stranger. "Is this seat taken?" should be the mantra of the single people today. It's one hell of a sad mantra.

I mean, it'd be nice if we had a chance to actually get to know the person -- the whole person -- before we actually ask them out -- or get asked out by them.

But it seems like the only place to do that is at work. That's the only place where you have a chance to spend some time getting to know people. But if you date a co-worker? If it works out, great. If it doesn't -- you're screwed! Now you have to feel awkard and uncomfortable every time you see them at work. People have actually quit their jobs over it.

There was a guy who tried to approach me at a bookstore recently. He tried to chat me up about the book I was looking at. Immediately, my guard went up. I don't know this guy. Who the hell is he?

So you have to make a decision if you want to take a chance and go out with someone you don't damn well know. As in "at all." This is particularly scary for women.

It seems like society today offers very few avenues to adult singles that aren't totally impersonal -- or even degrading (meeting in bars, online dating, placing personal ads, etc.)

I have acquaintences (male and female) who've even tried doing things like joining clubs and volunteer work. They still got very little results.

As far as bars are concerned, I'd agree with you about the "meat market" type of bars -- no f***ing way! But there are some nice neighborhood type bars, where I seen men who look pretty nice -- and seem pretty normal.

I guess it depends on what you want too. If you're just looking for a one-night stand -- a very short term hook-up based on getting sex -- that shouldn't be all that difficult to find. Especially if you're a man. All you have to do is go to a hooker. Isn't that what they're there for?

But if you're really trying to find a LTR committed relationship -- all I can say is "good luck" and keep trying. I know I haven't really done everything I should to make an effort -- but I've known plenty of people who've left no stone unturned -- and they're still looking! This is something I'm still working on myself, and I have yet to figure out the best way to go about it.

If it makes you feel any better, there are plenty of us who are in the same boat.