How to feel love

Usually people show their love in what they do versus what they say. This does not mean that she doesn't mean it when she says she loves you.

But people can and do express their love with actions. For example, let's say she was mechanically inclined and one day she changed the oil in your car because she felt it would be a nice thing to do for you. You didn't ask for this; she just did it.

Most people would see that as a sign of affection if not outright love. This action can be something like running interference if her family ever gives you a hard time, or making sure the fridge is always stocked with your favorite foods. Someone who doesn't do this? They aren't necessarily a person who doesn't love you. People have different ways of expressing that. This is just one way to gauge things.

Question: how do you show her that you love her? Aside from telling her or having sex or buying her things.