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Feelinghurtppp
 
Reply Sat 21 Jan, 2023 08:37 am
My bf and I have beeen together for 18 months and I believe our relationship has developed into a very healthy and good one. However, I have still kept my house, which is about an hour away from him, and although the original intent that we had was that I would sell my house and live with him in his place, I still have my house because I’m working part time near my home.

This last weekend I got a cold, so I wasn’t up to seeing him at his at his place but I said I’d like to for him to come see me. He said let’s see how you feel and then , he said well maybe I shouldn’t come in case you’re contagious. I understand his health concern. But he has a habit of not coming to me where I live. I understand further that it was our intent to be at his place on the weekends since there’s a lot more happening there , I just feel like he doesn’t make much of an effort to see me when it’s not on his turf am I being oversensitive?
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jespah
 
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Reply Sat 21 Jan, 2023 09:45 am
@Feelinghurtppp,
In the course of the last 3 years, has he never worn a mask, used hand sanitizer, or washed his hands with hot water and soap while singing the Happy Birthday song twice?

All of these things prevent viral transmission from viruses which live on surfaces -- which cold and flu germs do.

If he does all that and doesn't kiss you, then it's not likely that you would pass him your cold.

And if all that is oh so difficult for him to do, he has a phone, yes? Then he can contact Doordash or Uber Eats or the like and have a local restaurant deliver soup to you.

Hell, even if there are no such restaurants in your area, IIRC GoPuff will deliver stuff like tissues. CVS sure will, and I bet other large pharmacy chains like Walgreens and Walmart will, too.

He probably didn't think of these out of the box ways to show caring, so it's up to you to clue him in.

PS do NOT give up your home. Rent it for passive income but keep possession of it in your name ONLY. If you're unsure of your relationship and its future, you will be a far happier person if you hold onto sole possession of what is likely to be your biggest asset.
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