Had ED/ Woman i was seeing thought i was in the closet

Have ED. Now the woman I dated thinks I am bi/gay


1st time.
Tried but ED. At the time i thought it was a med I was taking and it turns out that that particular med
does in fact cause ED. —So I quit the med.
2nd time. ED again. Totally frustrating. I am feeling really down about this.
Urology appt 3 weeks later.
Turns out I have/had Prostatitis. Doc told me it takes about 6 weeks. At the time I was not getting erections at
any time. I gad to take antibiotics for one month and another prescription for this condition.
SHE VERY MUCH KNEW ABOUT THE DOC APPT AND THE RESULTS.
I saw this woman for about 3 months
we saw eachother a couple of times a week - usually weekdays. Often dinner. Long walks. Kissing. hand holding. We talked a lot
about our lives. We talked about our struggles. We talked about our families a lot. We both grew up in homes that were high on the
dysfuntional scale. She checked off a lot of boxes. We had similar interests.

The last couple of times I saw her she said she was tired so I left her place a bit early so as to not wear out my welcome. One of those
times she was in the mood and I missed it.

On the last day I saw her i left her place at around 9pm because she told me she had to go to her mom’s 2 hours away. Did not want to
get in the way.
Then I get a phone call as I am walking to the train . She said she could drive me. So i went back.
In the car she said to me.
“Don’t take this the wrong way but are you bisexual?”
I replied that I was not.
Then she parked the car and more questions.
“Are you the type of guy that would marry a woman but l be with guys (in other words in the closet)?”
No. I am not into guys. It is ot my thing.
“Why do you think I am gay”?
“You went to F.I.T. “
(that’s a fashion school. yep! lots of gay guys there. perfectly nice people. never had sex with a man when I went there)
“You lived in hells kitchen”
(that’s an area in NYC. It has actually become a neighborhood with a lot of gay men. I actually moved there way back in the 90’s
because I got a good deal. And I actually moved in 2005 to get an even better deal on rent.
“You live near Fort Tryon park. Guys hook up there”
Yep she is right. Guys do hook up there. And I told her that I had actually walked past guys who i suspected were trying to hook up many times.
Finally I told her that about 25 years ago I was with a guy. It was not planned and I was on cocaine ecstacy and booze. I knew the guy I was
socializing with was gay. But I really thought we were simply friends. I told here that I really do not remember much about that evening. And that
I decided that it was best to stop all contact with that person because I was not interested in having that kind of relationship.
Then she said
“ Oh everybody has a story like that”
but then
“but you did do it”

after that we did not see eachother again