girlfriend and drinking

No, you're not being difficult, but you probably need to pick a quiet time when everything is good and talk to her about it. You don't say what she "turns into", but it doesn't sound good.

she just doesn't know when to stop- usually stumbling around. a few times she fell which is embarrassing. Generally annoying as most get- Then gets mad at me since I am not drinking as much- but i have no interest

We're not her family or her associates. Maybe an intervention is in order. Drinking problem perhaps?

Therapy or counseling of sorts for her?

I think you're seeing the beginnings of a bigger problem. You might want to distance yourself a bit.

Reminds me of this one friend of mine when I lived in Florida he would want to meet for Happy hour. Problem was he never knew when to stop, I would be halfway done with my first drink and he would be ordering his third because he pounded down the first two!

He would get mad when I would ask him to slow down a bit. There was no talking to him so I just stop going to happy hour with him. We’re still friends on facebook, he now rides a bike because he’s had three DUI’s, in Florida after your third you will never drive in that state again.

Thanks- I don't want to tell her what to do- I just look at it like it's something that bothers me that she has control over. (or maybe she doesn't)- it's not frequent- it's just when we are in group of people/friends- doesn't look like she can stop after 1 or 2

You CAN, however, set some boundaries. You can say, "We can go, but 2 drinks is the limit and if you agree to that but go over the limit, I'm leaving you there". If she goes over her limit, just leave. You can also video her next time she's falling over, etc., and show it to her. I had to do that with my ex. He was mortified. She can dilute her drinks with soda. But if she "can't" stop, she has a problem and just be aware of it.

She drinks to excess. She is harming her health not just doing something that you don’t like. She gets mad at you if you don’t want to drink with her. That’s not good. That’s not good for her, you or the relationship. One or two drinks is acceptable and should be enough…especially if you’re not interested in more.

She has a problem and if you’re trying to give the message about constructive criticism that reflects on her being suck. She might need professional help. You’re not a therapist but you’re interested in her health and the future of the relationship. You’re not “telling her what to do” but telling her what you need. There’s a difference. She might be defensive but you need to be firm. Especially if she’s not limiting her intake on her own. She’s troubled now but might not be beyond some help.

Good luck.

Do NOT leave a woman who's been drinking alone in a bar. That is extremely irresponsible and dangerous. If you don't like who she is or what she does then break up with her. You do not have to stay with someone who makes you this uncomfortable.

She may or may have an alcohol problem. That's for her to decide. Your decision is if you want to stay with her. That's it.

I must have missed the part where he was talking about being at a bar. I looked back and he just wrote about when they are together that this happens.

i would not leave her alone in a bar- this happens wherever alcohol is served. I agree with the stance if she will not compromise- I will consider moving on. I don't want to - but I also don't want this to continue

She will change when something inside of HER says that it’s enough. Whether or not when that occurs is up to her. She may not want to compromise. She’s not thinking straight. She needs counseling or something beyond your paygrade, she doesn’t see the harm YET.

she sees it as control- (me controlling her)- and to accept the 5% of times this happens (Meaning accept her for all her trait's and flaws)- I don't quite see if that way - but i understand. If i am wrong or going about this the wrong way- please weigh in