should I just ask?

Who knows?

Apparently he wants to get together. Maybe he wants to ask you for a loan. ( just kidding, but why assume or expect anything)

Just go for coffee and see what’s up.

lol loan...

I'm wondering if i should make a move

but maybe i sould just enjoy the time and let it happen

absolutely You could be making your next best friend. Take it for what it is.

You will have to one day.

Why not see if there's a spark, first. He might just be a lox socially.

What do you mean by lox?

I've looked it up and none of the two definitions apply, liquid oxygen or smoked salmon, there is a Yiddish word laks, which often is mispronounced as lox which means testicles, but that would only worked if he lacked them in social situations.

Here it's on the lines of "a cold fish", meaning there's no there, there.

My point was to get a feel for if there is a connection to made outside of sexual attraction.

I might wait to after he shows or doesn't show me a picture of his wife or girlfriend before I get into sexual identity, a conversation in this country that can have a response anywhere from, "So am I!" to murder, and all degrees in between.

Progressiveness and acceptance is not a homogeneous quality in the range of US citizens.

well there seems to be something there like i said he is younger than me and it might be one of those things he isn't comfortable with. but he's a quiet type. as i said to a few friends, he could be a geek or an ax murderer i just cant tell and im typically good at reading people.

So did you ask him yet?

And is he bringing his axe?

Right? these are things you have to ask He could be carrying a small axe in his pocket, either that or he's happy to see him.

Exactly!

no I havent. we haven't been able to meet