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Tue 15 Mar, 2022 10:09 am
. . . . why does he have to hide it?
My husband isn't addicted to porn but I know he watches it. When I walk by the bedroom he's sitting at his desk working but when he's not on a work call he has his personal laptop sitting next to him and when he hears me coming he'll quickly minimize his screen or go to another tab. We both work from home and he's not doing anything on his work computer and we've discussed it several times why he feels the need to hide what he's watching from me. He says that most men don't want their wives or girlfriends to know they look at porn even though they already know. Every time I see him do it I'll question him on it and he gets irate like I caught him with his hand in the cookie jar so to speak.
Why does he feel the need to hide it from me when I already know he's watching it?
@Snowed,
Because he feels embarrassed, you don't sound like you approve of his behaviour, just tolerate it, so no wonder he feels uncomfortable.
@izzythepush,
And don't forget, they haven't been sexually active for a while because of some reason with her hysterectomy. Perfectly normal behaviour on his part, I'd say. They're only in their early 50's. Maybe they should watch it together?
@Mame,
Mame wrote:
And don't forget, they haven't been sexually active for a while because of some reason with her hysterectomy. Perfectly normal behaviour on his part, I'd say. They're only in their early 50's. Maybe they should watch it together?
Porn is not my thing so I would rather not watch it.
@Snowed,
Well, watching porn is not my thing, either, but it's not a crime. If you two have gone as long as you have without being intimate, I'm not really surprised he's watching it.
@Snowed,
Which is why he hides it from you.
@Mame,
Mame wrote:
Well, watching porn is not my thing, either, but it's not a crime. If you two have gone as long as you have without being intimate, I'm not really surprised he's watching it.
We actually tried it again a few weeks ago and it was a disaster. I couldn't get wet so I pulled some massage oil out of my nightstand and tired it but he didn't like it because he said it was massage oil and not lubricant. He said it was thick and it wasn't pleasant. Neither of us were satisfied.
@Snowed,
Try other things. Right now what you don't need are roadblocks. You are trying to get together, not find more roadblocks.
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