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What do I do now?

 
 
asdsasd
 
Reply Sun 6 Feb, 2022 07:33 am
I met this guy at a party back in early December. We ended up making out at said party and exchanged phone numbers at the end of the night. We went out to dinner a few nights later and ending up having sex in at his place. I remember once that night though he started talking about he female friends and said I basically I nothing to worry about. I ended up getting COVID-19, being in isolation, and we both went home for break. Throughout break when ending of messaging each other ever day in some capacity. He did note at one point he never really moves this fast with girls.

We planned to get dinner and hang out when we came back. That day was yesterday and we, again, ended up having sex and ordering in for dinner. Though throughout the night, he once called us friends and then corrected himself to FWB. Eventually, I guess I was looking at him some particular way and he commented on it and said " Don't like me too much now." When I questioned what he meant, he said he doesn't really do relationships and isn't really looking for something at this point in time. But the way he was literally staring me in the eyes and holding me, I felt it was too much for FWB. Like so much cuddling and pillow talk. He did talk about other girls and all, but I guess my facial expressions might have indicated something and he commented on my slight, apparent jealously. He even said he liked me, but I'm assuming not in that way?

The thing is I feel like I might want a relationship, because of the way I have been interacting with this guy and felt it was trending in that direction. But based off of what he said it seems to not be the case at all. I don't know how to proceed because I feel like I might get hurt if I choose to proceed, but also don't want to let this go and stop seeing him.
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jcboy
 
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Reply Sun 6 Feb, 2022 07:44 am
@asdsasd,
asdsasd wrote:

he said he doesn't really do relationships and isn't really looking for something at this point in time.


At least he was honest and upfront with you. Sounds like all he wants right now is to be friends with benefits.
asdsasd
 
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Reply Sun 6 Feb, 2022 07:46 am
@jcboy,
i recognize that, but what do i do now? i feel like i might just want a relationship, but don’t know for sure but also don’t want to lose whatever this is trying to figure it out.
jespah
 
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Reply Sun 6 Feb, 2022 08:02 am
@asdsasd,
This is FWB.

It's not supposed to be exclusive.

This is reason #850,223 why FWB is THE worst way for people to relate to each other. It is inevitably uneven. One person catches feelings. The other doesn't.

Don't tie yourself up in knots trying to give this guy your loyalty when he didn't ask for it and is most likely not reciprocating.

You met a pleasant man who you fucked a couple of times. And that's it.

If you want more than being an occasional **** buddy, then meet other people.

And for God's sake be 100% up front about what you want. If you want a relationship with feelings, time, dating, etc. Then. Say. So.

This guy told you exactly what he wants.

Learn from this experience and start doing the same.

Life is a lot simpler when you do that.
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