I got a sexual Question

My question is I have a lover. He lets me touch his private and he touches my private. I cant find anything about letting him know he is fine touching my private all I read is slap him for touching you sexual. I want him to touch me and kiss me very sexual so do he. He loves being sexual. I want to know how I can keep touching him so sexual. With out reading that you need to smack him for touching you sexual I give him consent so does he. I found it online when i asked what does it mean when a girl wants her virgina sexually touched.