Can you be friends with an ex or will they always want more

I need some advice. I briefly dated this guy for a couple of months over 3 years ago. I broke it off because my feelings weren’t progressing. He was in love with me, and I didn’t have those same feelings toward him. I still had feelings for my ex boyfriend at the time, so I knew it was best to end things with this other guy. During the couple of months we dated, I did tell the guy about my ex, and how things were moving too fast for me.


After I broke up with him, the guy wanted to stay friends. We hung out with the same crowd, so I knew I would see him a lot. We had some space from each other right after the break up. After that we were able to stay friends. During these past 3 years, we still hung out and did things together. For example, went on walks, watched movies, etc. It seemed like we were almost dating, but without the intimacy.


I do enjoy spending time with him. I enjoy our conversations. It is easy and comfortable. He has told me he wants more than a friendship, and I can’t give it to him. I don’t feel that way.



I haven’t dated anyone since breaking up with him because I wanted to make sure I was ready to date again. I moved too fast going into this relationship, and I didn’t want to make that same mistake again. I think I’m finally ready.


The problem is I’m scared to start dating again. What if this guy is the right one, and I miss out? Do I really have feelings and just not know it? What if I date someone new, and realize this other guy is the one I should be with? I’m so confused