In my post I did mention that I've been telling her things that I do NOT want. example:
MOH: I've picked out these decorations for the party
Me: Decorations aren't really my thing, so we can skip those, I don't want them there
MOH: Well, every bachelorette party has decorations, that's just what people do, so you'll have to get over it.
Just to put it into context for you. In the beginning, I did give her free reign, because I assumed yano, we've been friends for a while so she knows my likes and dislikes. I guess that she was planning things I wouldn't enjoy, and she wasn't listening to the other bridal party members when they told her it wasn't a good idea and I wouldn't like it, so they came to me and that's when I got involved (nothing had been set in stone yet) and starting pointing out what I did and did not want.