Advice dealing with depressed brother?

Reply Mon 25 Jan, 2021 10:54 pm

My older bother is my hero. He's a smart guy. He held our family together when my dad passed away a few years ago. Mom had a really tuff time, and he basically sacrificed most all of his free time to help her while also raising his young children.

Last week my brother lost his job working on the keystone pipeline.

We talk all the time, but he's not coming to me now. He's my best friend in the world. He's worried about losing his home and being able to support his wife and children. He even mentioned "being better off as a life insurance payout" for his family.

I guess I'm just worried. He isn't talking to me, and I've never seen him like this before.

I just want to help him.
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Reply Wed 27 Jan, 2021 11:25 am
Sorry if this seems a bit impersonal. Not sure how else to answer this.
Suicide preparedness is one of the best ways to ensure you’ll be ready to help a friend who may be struggling with suicidal thoughts. [...] The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US is also a great resource to memorize and use if you are concerned about a friend. The phone number for the Lifeline is 1-800-273-8255(TALK).

Begin a dialogue by asking questions. Suicidal thoughts are common with some mental illnesses and your willingness to talk about it in a non-judgmental, non-confrontational way can be the help a person needs to seek professional help. Questions okay to ask:

“Do you ever feel so bad that you think about suicide?”
“Do you have a plan to kill yourself or take your life?”
“Have you thought about when you would do it (today, tomorrow, next week)?”
“Have you thought about what method you would use?”
Asking these questions will help you to determine if your friend or family member is in immediate danger, and get help if needed. A suicidal person should see a doctor or mental health professional immediately. Calling 911 or going to a hospital emergency room are also good options to prevent a tragic suicide attempt or death.
Reply Wed 27 Jan, 2021 11:43 am
agreed - I took a suicide prevention class - one big thing I took away was not to be afraid to directly ask if they feel they are suicidal/want to kill themselves. Often times it is a relief to the individual that someone asks them that. The questions noted below are a good way to ask.

If you are worried - ask. I did do this before - the person was not suicidal but they did appreciate I cared enough to ask.

Also whether he answers you or not - give him the suicide prevention live number tsarstepan included.
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