@Swainssnuggy,
Quote:I don't want to mention it because I don't want him to feel an obligation and I want it to come from him
This is stupid. None of us are mind readers. You aren't being fair if you expect him to magically know what you need.
It is your responsibility to communicate with your partner. Tell him what he does that you like and appreciate (positive reinforcement is good). Tell him what you want and need from him. When my girlfriend tells me what she wants, you bet I am going to give it to her in spades.
If you don't communicate with your partner, then it is your fault that you aren't satisfied.