I was looking for advice, but also wanting to put this into words to help my own thought process. I've been with my wife for just over 20 years. We're both in our early forties. Over the past five years, she has gradually gone off receiving oral from me & I'm finding that difficult to live with, as I enjoy giving. Not all the time, but I love her body & this was something fun to change things up from time to time.
I have tried talking to her but neither of us are very good at discussing sex. Apart from this, our sex life is pretty active & enjoyable. I certainly don't want to pressure her into something she doesn't enjoy, but on the rare occasions, when does accept my advances in this direction (usually when we're on holiday or staying at a hotel for some reason) she really seems to enjoy it, which makes her reluctance the rest of the time more puzzling.
It's not the biggest issue in the world & doesn't cause arguments or anything, but I do feel a little hurt. I always thought I had good technique
She's in excellent physical shape. Her vagina is perfectly normal-looking & doesn't smell. She keeps her pubic hair trimmed & I'm not into the bald look. I don't attack her with a tongue like an excavator, bite, blow up there or anything mad.
The only thing I can think of is that she feels like it's somehow yukky & feels weird to have me that close. Nothing could be further than the truth. I try to reassure her, but there is only so much you can say before it feels like being pushy, so I let it drop.
Any ideas?
Of course, if the bottom line is she's just never going to like it, then I'll just have to wave adios to that little pleasure. I'm just hoping someone might have a pearl of wisdom I'd not considered. Worth a shot.
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