Cheated on labor day

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Let me start out by saying I been with my gf for close to 6 years. This labor day I witnessed her cheating on me as she didnt realize I was watching out our window. I'm devastated as to what I saw. It constantly plays over and over in my mind bringing back the hurt and resentment that I now have for her. She says sorry up and down and gets sick to her stomach on the thoughts of me leaving her. She was drunk and says she doesnt remeber making out with the guy but believes me as I wouldn't ever mak something up like this. This happened in our culdasac party with the neighbors brother. Idk what to do. Do I leave her as I feel so disrespected and not sure if I should belive her love for me. Being drunk will never be a excuse to me for cheating. The whole neighborhood knows and I'll feel like I'm weak if I stay as if I'm saying its ok she did that. I'm not going to lye I'm scared of change finding my own place or even living alone. Please help with some advice my life changed after labor day and not for the good

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If she gets so drunk that she makes out with a stranger and doesn't remember it, then perhaps she has a drinking problem. Maybe she needs to tone it down with the alcohol.

As for "forgiving her" vs "leaving her" I really can't add anything that you don't already know. You have to do either one or the other, and only you can make that decision.

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Zinc38 wrote:

Being drunk will never be a excuse to me for cheating.

An additional thought: While it doesn't excuse the cheating, "cheating while blackout drunk" isn't the same thing as "cheating while sober". It's not like a blackout drunk is making a conscious decision to cheat.

If you choose to forgive her, you should insist on her curbing her drinking and also going to some kind of relationships counseling with you.

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The problem is I dont believe her saying she doesnt remeber it . sbe initiated the move to kiss him. I watched it all happen. I then text her as I'm looking out the window to come home I miss her. I see her read the text and put the phone down as if she didn't read it. I then call her phone to tell her to come home and she said she wanted to stay out longer and I have to believe she was enjoying his company. I never ever cared how long she stayed out as I always trusted her and didnt want to be that guy that has to keep tabs on her. Like I said I believe she lying and she knows what she did but is using alcohol as a excuse. I'll admit starting over and being alone will be on the scary side for me but it may be what I need as this has been driving me crazy. I'd rather been told she kissed him vs me actually seeing it

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While it doesn't excuse the cheating, "cheating while blackout drunk" isn't the same thing as "cheating while sober".

Cheating is cheating and if she was blacked out drunk she wouldn't been able to walk. She clearly looked at my text and ignored them as I watched her through a window. I'll never believe she didnt know she made out with him.

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