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Thu 4 Jul, 2019 09:13 pm
So theres this girl who I worked with for a year and we were really good friends, but she has a boyfriend. After she quit, I visited her new bar for a few weeks, but I realized I was getting too close or having feelings, (she also seemed to have some sort of feelings for me as well, but not sure), so I backed off and didnt visit her. One week later she says she missed me and wanted to get coffee. I agreed and set a time for 4pm at a specific place. 2 hours before she cancels with a weird excuse about her boyfriend. She says raincheck but no reschedule. I say I understand, hope hes ok, and then stop talking to her. 2 weeks go by, she says (my name)! Havent seen you in a while, how are you? After about an hour I say great! Mention I did standup the previous night, and ask her how she is and what she has going on this week. No response and that was 3 days ago. What is going on with this girl?
@shyguygamer1,
You didn't talk to her for 2 weeks. She's probably asking the same question about you.
You're not going to have a relationship with her until the boyfriend is out of the picture (or at least you shouldn't). She probably realized coffee sounded like a date, so she backed off.
Why not lay your cards on the table and tell her that you like her but you understand the position she is in so if the 2 of you go for coffee, be upfront about it
not being a date.
Why poke that bear?
She’s indecisive at best about her BF. Or bored. Or a chronic flirt. Likes attention - from you or other guys. Who knows what her intentions are?
Best to keep away. You deserve better.
@jespah,
Well I had specifically said platonic. But if I'm being honest maybe it's not really what I want. Not trying to lie but maybe just not being honest with myself.
@shyguygamer1,
if i were you, i would choose to write to her under such condition.
writing your words that you want to tell her on a piece of paper maybe is more better than face-to -face talk.
see, i ever liked a person when i was high school. but unluckily, i was too shy to express my feelings so i missed him. so if you really like her, then let her know with some proper ways. be careful not to embarrass her and you can still keep your friendship even if she said no.
I think a female if really wants a guy while she is in a relationship she would make that move .Also vice versa
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