Great Pretender

My first post, I talked a little about what was going on and it wasn't so much of a question as it was a vent. Yesterday I wrote my husband a very loving and somewhat erotic note, and he basically pretended he didn't see it, That has never happened before. I don't know what to do. Do I try to get an investigator and get to the bottom, or continue to feel like a nagging wife? Can I pretencd that all is okay and that everything doesn't hurt long enough to get the evidence. I think that he is playing me, or maybe I am just nuts..any advice, please