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Fri 31 May, 2019 06:45 am
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years. He travels overseas from time to time. At the start of our relationship we discussed the boundaries in our relationship and we both agreed that cheating was not ok. He said that there might be temptation for both of us, but this temptation would not lead to get tempted to stray, because he would never want to jeopardize the relationship. However, a week ago he said he had a security against cheating and this is that it wouldn't be fair for him to cheat if he didn't wanted me to cheat. I felt a bit puzzled with this. Does this mean he does get tempted to cheat from time to time? Should I worry or am I just reading too much into this?
@Jmo79,
Yes, it means that he is tempted to cheat. But being tempted to cheat is pretty normal.
He is assuring you that he won't cheat even though he is tempted.
@Jmo79,
Why don't you ask? Say you are puzzled by what he said.
Stop concentrating on what you won’t do, agree on what you will do.
That is to be exclusive to each other, no matter what.
@PUNKEY,
PUNKEY wrote:
Stop concentrating on what you won’t do, agree on what you will do.
That is to be exclusive to each other, no matter what.
That's not the only option Punkey.
There are successful relationships that are open... meaning that either partner can have sex with other people as long as they are emotionally committed to the relationship (however they define it).
It is important to clearly communicating the expectations of each partner. The specific agreement isn't so important.
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