@JLCtoronto,
This is pretty clear to me. Sober Alex wins.
If he is repressing something, that is his problem that he has to deal with. You can't force something on him when he is drunk that he doesn't want to face when he is sober.
When someone uses alcohol to repress feelings, it is often a sign of a drinking problem. If you are a friend, you might offer to support him in dealing with this. You can't do this if you want to get him into bed.
If you aren't close enough as a friend to be responsible, then you should walk away. This isn't a good situation for either of you.