Am I overthinking?

So ive been with my partner for several months. Weve been sexually active more or less from the start. The sex is.. its not bad but could be better?although my partner says she is happy so idk lol. But anyway the topic

So me and my partner were sexually active right away. When we had sex I noticed she wasnt very vocal and seemed really tense so I had to ask a lot if she was okay because she seemed to not be enjoying things. She assured me she was and that she struggles to relax during sex unless shes drunk. Ok kool I thought. She also told me she can only orgasm through oral, which was new to me but everyone is different so I thought okay no problem. She also mentioned some sort of mental block and trauma she had from a young age which was most likely affecting her being able to reach orgasm through sex.


My ex was a squirter and I asked my partner if she had ever squirted. She said no and didnt even know what it was. She asked me then about my ex and if she did that, foolishly i said yes. Perhaps I shouldve said no but I was trying to be honest. She seemed unbothered. I would never have told her this unless she asked as I didnt want to make her feel inadequate in any way.

So one day im asking her what she likes and doesnt like in the bedroom. I asked because I was hoping if I knew she would become more relaxed and less tense.

However the answer I got was a very strange one. She only had one answer.. And she began talking about her ex boyfriends penis and how big it was. I was kind of lost for words. This wasnt my intention at all lol. She ended the description of his penis by saying she prefers normal size ones.

The first thing I thought of is, what does that have to do with us? It was a very bizarre answer which im still trying to get my head around.

My thinking is that because of what I said about my ex, she was trying to let me know that she was with someone previously that is much bigger than myself, therefore trying to inspire some sort of insecurity within me.

However this is a reach and this is why I am asking. Am I overthinking? Hmm.

My partner is very insecure and shes a beautiful woman if im honest. But she does think very strangely. Or pehaps not and she might just be spiteful? Im really not sure but any opinions would be great.

Ive asked a female friend and she basically said to me she knew what she was saying and she was trying to make me jealous.

The reason im also asking is because it was just a weird response imo. At the point in the relationship I asked we had been having sex a lot. So even if she is being honest, this wouldnt apply to me as im of a normal size, as she said. Lol